Many gay Asians have a problematic addiction to potatoes, aka white guys. I was there myself. For years, I always pictured the “ideal guy” for me to be a dashingly handsome white guy with the perfect features – blue eyes, sandy hair, and a bit taller than me.
Lucky for me, I woke up in time to smell the coffee. Many of my fellow gay Asians aren’t so fortunate. They stick to their proverbial guns and hang to the pipe dream of landing a white male model, even when they’re years past their dating prime.
If you’re a potato queen, I have news for you. You need to get over your addiction to white guys ASAP. Here’s why:
1. You need white guys more than they need you
For every white guy who’s open to dating an Asian, there are no fewer than 3 Asians fighting for his attention.
White guys are the least willing of all the races to date outside their own racial group, and when they do, there’s plenty of competition for them.
Don’t believe me? The folks over at OkCupid, one of the biggest free dating sites, collect statistics on this stuff. The picture isn’t rosy…
- White guys are almost 4 times as likely as Asians to say they strongly prefer to date someone of their own race (43% vs 12%)
- White guys only reply to Asians 35% of the time when they make contact, whereas Asians respond 55% of the time to white guys
See the disparity? There’s a much bigger potential pool of Asians seeking white guys, which means it’s a white guy’s market. Actually, going strictly by reply rates (read the chart vertically downwards), white men are the biggest snobs on OkCupid, with the lowest reply rates of anyone.
And even if you get lucky…
2. You’ll eventually get dumped for a younger, cuter Asian
White people invented the concept of leasing a car and trading it in when it’s old, and they’ve carried that concept over to their dating lives too.
97% of the time when you see an East-West (Asian-White) couple, it’s an older white guy with a substantially younger Asian. Because there are many more Asians seeking white guys than vice versa, white guys have plenty of choice, while potato-seeking Asians have to settle for whatever they can get. Usually, it’s an older, often chubbier white guy who, for all his shortcomings, is, well, white.
Years down the road when you’re getting a bit long in the tooth, you can expect to be traded in for a younger, hotter Asian model, and there will be plenty of those to choose from.
3. Rice queens don’t care about you as an individual
Although your average white guy is a poor dating choice for all the reasons above, you should be extra suspicious of rice queens.
A rice queen is a special variety of white guy that primarily (or exclusively) dates Asians. You may think that you’ve hit pay dirt when you land a rice queen, but you should beware – they only like you because you’re Asian.
White guys become rice queens because they like smooth skin, smaller bodies and what they perceive as more submissive personalities of Asian guys. When a rice queen sees you, he notices only those features he’s attracted to, not necessarily your other qualities.
At some point down the road, your rice queen will find an even better Asian who embodies even more of the qualities he likes, and you might end up sitting on the curb on garbage day.
4. Potatoes age faster
White guys age faster than us Asians, at least on the surface. Caucasian skin tends to be thinner and looser, and more susceptible to wrinkling at an earlier age. White men also gain a considerable amount of weight sometime after their early 20s, and that weight gain continues steadily until middle age, at which time it’s pretty rare to find a white guy who doesn’t have a visible beer gut.
What this means is that your 25-year-old Abercrombie model will see his looks depreciate considerably by age 35, and will almost certainly wind up in the visual bargain bin by age 45. How often do you hear people saying to white guys “OMG you’re 38?? You look 10 years younger!” And yet it happens all the time to Asians.
5. You will end up old and lonely
For all the reasons above, you’re unlikely to land the white guy of your dreams. And even if you luck out, it may be short lived.
A disproportionate number of my old, lonely gay friends are Asians and the one thing they share in common is a strong preference to date exclusively white guys. Year after year as they age they become even less attractive to the white guys who, as we’ve seen, have plenty of younger, cuter Asians to choose from.
If gay Asians want to do themselves a favor, they might consider being more open-minded to dating any other race besides white men, perhaps even giving other Asians a chance. It’s probably not a good idea to base a relationship on superficial physical criteria like skin, hair or eye color, which narrows down your choice of partners. Yes, physical attraction is difficult to consciously change but everyone’s looks fade over time and physical attraction is only a small part of successful long term relationships. At least, that’s been my experience.
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While there may be some truth to this post, it is very important to remember that there are people of greater substance.
I am a Caucasian gay man aged 62. My partner/spouse is 58 Japanese.
We have been deeply in love for 23 years.
And yes, I have that white guy belly, and my partner looks closer to 48 than 58. But we have incredible love and extreme lust in our lives for one another still.
We know that we will be together truly until death do us part.
Sometimes love wins.
I would give my life in a heartbeat for my beautiful spouse.
I liked reading your post, other than to say let’s please not feed into this stereotype that all gay men develop a gut. That just isn’t the case at all. And white people can look years younger as well…provided they take care of themselves and wear plenty of daily sunscreen
Nice,couple
in California?
Wow, such a slanted article towards white guys in general, just because you’ve had terrible experiences with white men in general doesn’t mean ALL are like that, and yes, I’m white.
I don’t believe one race is better than any other, especially in the gay community where the mentality is looks triumph over personality. I feel for the asian guys that have been wronged in a relationship, and I have also been wronged by asian guys who traded me in for the younger, or more often than not, wealthier option so its not as one sided as you may think. I do agree tht white guys are superficial, no doubts about that from my dating experiences with them, I often question what asian men find attractive in white guys because honestly, they are just too narcissistic.
To answer why I myself prefer having a relationship with asian guys is not because of the fact that they’re asian, its because I find that more are willing to have a serious relationship rather than just a quick fling, and more often than not, I like how mature, loving and caring they are with me and also being supportive in times of need.
Its just too bad that the gay community as a whole is starting to become more shallow and self obsessed, wish people would be more caring towards one another instead of having all the racist, prejudice feelings and having more class will go a long way, heteros don’t post their numbers or id’s to randoms on the internet for cheap sex so why should the gays? just my thoughts.
All white men commenting on this blog are all into asian guys. They’ve probably googled “gay asian male” which they obviously would think that this is bias. But really, asian males are so elated with white men because of some varying reasons. Sexually, asian thinks white guys are more sexually satisfying than their own race. Growing up, I have been watching white porn movies which lead me to thinking that all white guys performs in bed that way which creates my own sexual fantasies of “I want to be that other guy on that sexual acrobatics I’m watching”. Secondly, financial reasons. Some asian think that to elevate them from their current situation, one easy way out is to be with a white guy, to a point that they set aside their used-to-be standards of “Channing Tatum” type of guy just to get what they want.
people should date who ever they want to date. there shouldn’t be limitations or boundaries on people who want to date out/in their race. it’s very upsetting to see that there are many people who criticize others for their preference. if certain people chose to date or be with others for the right/wrong reasons, who are we to begrudge/pass judgements on those people. let them be. are we really going to go back and throw shade on who we date? (*ahem* sounds like a straight person throwing shade to a man for wanting to date another man). bye felicia.
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This is an extremely offensive post. I am a white guy who is now dating and asian man. First off I am not a “rice queen” I just happened to fall in love with a man who is asian. I do not plan on ever leaving him for a younger asian because I love him. I am not I love with his features but his wonderful personality. We have been together for two years and both of us are very happy. What you have written was only uninformed and racist
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I totally agree. What a shameful and racist post. The only thing this post provided was spreading hate and false stereotypes. Shame on the author. There are many gay men out there that do not share these false and shallow views.
Im an asian and im 23. I dont know if thats true, never had an experience having a white partner. I think this is one sided. Not all white men tends to be like what youre saying and not all asians proved to be like that. It really depends on the individual. Relationship depends on how true you are with your feelings regardless of the race u came from. Most failure relationships i believe is cause by rapid decisions of settling down without even assessing yourself. You often thought you’re inlove while actually it was only a lust, you thought you love him when in fact you only want security, you say you’re sure whreas you are only attracted to him physically. In order for someone to have a successful relationship, both parties must ensure that they truly love each other and they know how to differentiate lust from love and love from like. Most of all they should be God fearing and be honest/faithful with themselves.
Sorry but some of these posts just reek of self-loathing. I feel sorry for these types who cling hopelessly to this fantasy year in and year out, until they have well passed their expiry date. How else can one explain a complete disgust towards someone who resembles your own reflection? You can rationalize it all you want but these Asians guys clearly have deep-seated issues with their own sense of attractiveness and value. Maybe 10-15 years ago I would mostly agree with this, but the tide has totally changed. Most young Asians guys I know nowadays prefer other Asians or are generally open in regards to race. This “potato” queen phenomenon is really something of a relic and particular to mostly older gay Asians who came of age in a different time. Back then, I’m sure their options were quite limited (and frankly Asians are still at the bottom of the gay pecking order), so it was either the paunchy, older White guy or well, going home alone.
This shift in attitudes among today’s young gay Asians is particularly apparent in the US. I feel places like Australia are still virulently anti-Asian, and I’m not surprised that many Asians there feel completely marginalized by the greater gay community. Here in Los Angeles, gay Asians are everywhere. Go to any circuit party and you’ll notice that at least half of the party boys are Asian, guaranteed. It’s not to say that there isn’t a lot of anti-Asian sentiment in the gay community, because there is, but times have definitely changed.
Are any of you potato queens surprised that White guys reject you? It’s because you don’t even find yourselves attractive. Self hate is ugly folks.
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asians are not at the bottom of the gay pecking order for sure, especially in California.
Maybe if the author would stop seeing guys as vegetables, bank tellers, body builders, trophies, and see the real person, he might have better luck.
If you look for the bad in people, you will surely find and attract it (been there done that).
here are good and bad in every race (I’ve been out 29 years; I know).
Now, the justification:
Most of the guys I date are Asian because that is what gives me the time of day here (and I don’t have a racial quota). I have the white guy gut (not really the beer belly, but I could lose 20#) because most of the guys I go out with are mostly chef’s and work in the service industry (they must see my gut and go he likes food lol). Because of this, I eat very well. I would not trade it for anything. I am glad I attract these guys; most of them they appreciate me for me and I appreciate them for them. Granted, the guy I am going out with is 19 years younger than I but he came on to me (quite strongly; we met because we are those weird gays that like football (American and world), hockey, basketball for the sake of the sport and not the “hotties”). Often I do feel afraid he will dump me for the younger, fitter, wealthier white guys and he thinks I will dump him for older (white) guys (considering I usually go out with guys between 5 years younger and 10 years older, and white).
So, you see, the paranoia goes both directions (regardless of age, race, sexual orientation.. OMG, I sound like a government ad).
For the record, American born white guy living/working in Canada. I will say that Canadians are just a racist as Americans (the difference is that Americans do not try to hide it). Additionally, I do not date any minority or Asian for that matter (since that is subject partially in this article) that only dates white guys. If they are that shallow and you know this, you have no grounds for complaining when you get dumped.
Now, as an old Grandpa at 45 whom looks 30 (must be the Irish part of the Irish-German heritage), you kids play nice.
This is an interesting insight. I think this phenomenon is happening elsewhere too.
I am Caucasian and my husband is from Thailand. I met him there 20 years ago. (Yes, we’re still together.) At that time, it seemed every Thai gay man wanted a farang (White) partner. But in recent years I’ve noticed a deep shift. The young Thai men on Facebook and other sites are now mostly interested in each other and give no indication of caring at all about White guys. I think this is a very healthy development and shows a maturing of Thailand’s gay male subculture. I also think it helps that Thailand was never colonized, so it didn’t have to throw of a legacy of feeling inferior to European colonial masters.
I was just browsing around and stumbled upon this article upon hearing the terms “potato queens” and “rice queens” recently. I’m 24 and Asian newly living in downtown Vancouver where the gay life style is very bar central (I’m totally non scene). I’m a young professional who is career oriented, has my life together and can take care of myself. I have great friends and family and I’m having the time of my life exploring the city and doing fun summer things. I’m very level headed, respectful, loyal, fun loving, great sense of humor, emotionally mature and takes care of my body and heath. Should be easy for me to find a nice Caucasian man right? Wrong.
Ever since I was younger I have always been fascinated about the physique of Caucasian men. We all have our preferences and our needs and what we find physically attractive. Mine just happens to be qualities that Caucasian men are strong in. Body hair, bulkiness, and facial hair, which men of Asian decent are not so strong in. When I started watching porn I realized very quickly that I am only turned on by muscley Caucasian men. When I walk down the street, sit on transit, or browsing the grocery store I always notice myself checking out the white guy with big muscles and that hollywood smile. Unfortunately, from a young age I have trained myself to be only attracted to Caucasian men. I have tried to date other Asian men or men of other ethnicity but I have never been able to feel a strong physical attraction. I can’t help it. I ruined it for myself. That’s just the way the disgusting standards of gay society and myself have twisted my mind. The same way how some straight girls are attracted to the jock douche bags.
My attempts to find a date have been pretty feeble to the point where I find myself immediately casting away any hopes and try to fill my time with something better to do other than getting my self-esteem beaten to pieces by a flurry of rejections and no replies. Is it my wavering confidence? Do I need to be more forward? How do I get this guy to talk to me or like me? I started to question why Caucasian men don’t like me. I know I’m not necessarily the most attractive guy on the planet, but I do take care of myself, and certainly someone will like me for my other qualities? I know for a fact I am excellent boyfriend/long-term/husband material, but that’s pretty hard to convey in online profiles or photos. We are all immediately judged by the first online photo that is seen.
So what’s next? I’m been a pretty introverted person my entire life. I’d rather spend some time with a small group of friends in an intimate setting where we can have conversation over going to a loud club to drink and dance the night away. If I am such a failure at the online thing, how do I work on meeting people in person? I have no qualms dating a guy who does not exactly fit my perfect ideal physical preferences. Most of that, admittedly, is just fantasy. In fact, I appreciate a bit of a belly, and after all, looks fade and if you start out with a handsome douche bag, you’re just going to be left with an ugly douche bag. I have also noticed that the type of muscle men that I’m attracted to are also only attracted to other muscular guys. Fair enough. So I started training. I have gained quite a bit of weight and muscle throughout the last few years but that still isn’t enough. Silly me to think that if I get a great body someone will want to date me, right? What do I have to do to get someone to be attracted to me? Is plastic surgery the next step?
After some self reflection and reading through this article and it’s responses I come to realize that maybe it’s not really my obsessive need to find a good looking Caucasian man. Maybe I need to stop the self pity and maybe it’s time for me to not be so stupid and open my mind to the fact that physical attraction isn’t everything. I am limiting my options and the possibilities targeting the niche that is the bulky scruffy Caucasian man. Maybe, just maybe, if I work on myself and my confidence, let go of my superficiality. I can find someone who will love me for who I am and what I am not.
I am 24 and white living in the Vancouver region. I’d love to perhaps get together and maybe we could talk about this further?
Your struggles in finding the right guy isn’t about race…it’s about finding the right guy that has their act together. I am “non scene” as well and it is more difficult in general since you are not putting yourself out there and socializing. Then you find yourself online and unfortunately that is the most superficial way of going about things. My advice is to joking some kind of gay group…a chorus or something athletic like softball. It isn’t because to are Asian that you haven’t found the right person…they need to get to know you.
well,not all of asian men are that desperate just like those asian chicks ,usually those asian men whom you describe are the feminime,dumb as fuck,sex addictive and annoying one,trust me having relationship with that kind of person is horrible,sorry but im kind of a guy who really value a relationship, and as an asian i’m only attracted to asian men,especially japanese guy,for example that mtohiro singer,he’s cute as fuck,with his chubby face lol ,and japanese have much better attitude,well educated,open minded and more trusted than those white men,funny how white men always think that all of asian gay men worship them so much lol,so i don’t really care if a white guy doesn’t like asian guy, coz we don’t like you either, and for you angryhomo good luck for you, i’m pretty sure youll find much better asian man than that potato worshiper
Wow stop with the racist comments. ALL Caucasian men feel this way… All Caucasian men act this way…. It is so wrong what you are saying and so racist.
I am an old white faggot who has had a long history of affairs with boys of other races. I lived in Asia for twenty years and had one boyfriend, who broke my heart so badly, I wanted to slit my throat. The reason, I wasn’t as fat or as old as he likes them. All my life I’ve picked the wrong Asian boys. None of my relationships ever lasted more than a few months. Perhaps it’s because I’m too affectionate, to cloying, too doting, too demanding, too kinky, too good in bed, and whatever other reason. The only long term affair I had was with an Asian slave boy, but even that was unfulfilling. So I look at gay Asian porn and jerk off. It’s a lonely life without my young Asian boy with his smooth skin, beautiful eyes that shine, and his sweet full lips that can make me cum just by kissing. Asians, by the way, give the best blowjos in general. But they can’t beat me. I give the best, and they love it. Why? Because nothing makes me happier than servicing my Asian boy.
Are you an idiot? How racist can you be. How about focusing on the person and not the race? And if you are dating anyone younger than 10 years from your age, then you are a sicko.
I’m white and when I met my Asian husband, I was 43 and he was 21. I am now 64 and he is 42. We’re still together, still happy, love each other’s families, and planning our retirement together. Oh and legally married here in Canada for 11 years. So how about focusing on the person and not the age?
White guy here who dates men of all races. I do have an attraction for Asian men, but have not had any luck with Asian guys, generally speaking. My only Asian boyfriend was from Asia. After almost 2 years of being exclusive, I told him I wanted to get married and I was committing myself to the relationship. He broke it off. He was 45 and I was in my 50s. I still don’t know why he broke it off and its been very difficult for me as I was totally in love with him and willing to get married.
It was very hard for him to express any kind of emotion or feeling while in the relationship, which I chalked up to his background. I was always guessing what did he really want as he never really came right out and said what he wanted or was thinking. But through it all, I thought he loved me. It wasn’t important he said the words, his actions told me he loved me enough.
I’m not into the younger set as you seem to think all white guys are. And trust me, no Asian guy has thrown themselves at my feet just because I’m white. That’s just not true not how it works.
We hear about heteros all the time, dumping wife of 25 years for a younger woman. Books, movies, TV programs, are all made up of this stuff. It’s not a gay thing, and it’s not a gay Asian/White thing. It’s a man thing.
You sound angry, like you’ve been dumped for a younger guy. Shit happens. Get over it and move on without the bitterness. To condemn an entire race like this is unjust. I am not the blond, surfer Joe that is the stereotype you present that all Asian men want.
I’m a loyal, trustworthy, respectful person who appreciates the difference in others. And although I am in my 50s, my skin has not “cracked” or aged to the depth of your description, nor do I have a “beer” gut.
I hope you find your happiness and learn that it comes from within. Dating is a bitch no matter what your race is. But what is important to know, is that there are going to be assholes in every race. Some guys are going to like you and some aren’t. Some Asian guys are going to like me and some aren’t.
If white just wants white then you know not to go chasing after someone who doesn’t date outside of his race. I don’t particularly care for the white on white thing, but I do understand you’re comments on that issue and can understand how they can be so hurtful.
I am in an age group that nobody wants. It sucks all the way around, but don’t give up. There’s always hope.
As a 29-year-old fairly attractive and fit WHITE GUY (yeah, i take care of myself, deal with it) I’m actually HIGHLY amused by the MYTH that asian guys age more slowly than white guys. The only people you might fool are those who don’t know HOW asians age (i.e. hicks and white people who haven’t spent much time with Asians). Both races actually age at pretty much the same rate: The baldness or beer gut or wrinkles can happen to both in different ways, if you don’t look after yourself.
If you’re an asian guy out there thinking that being asian is some golden ticket to eternal youth, FORGET IT. I can’t tell you how many fools tried to pretend they were younger than they were thinking I would fall for it when I was 21. If you’re a 30 year old asian guy, chances are you look fucking 30. As someone who dated asian guys through my teens to my early twenties I can tell, and so can all the other white guys who have the same interest in asian guys.
The other irritating myth is that white guys only date asians because of ‘low self-esteem’. If this were AT ALL a factor (which it rarely is), surely the only person suffering from low self-esteem is the one who feels the need to date someone outside their own race because of the perceived ‘superiority’ of that gene pool.
Anyway, to sign off, just in case you guys think I”m some sort of Caucasian misognist always looking for the next cute asian boy, I’m married to an asian guy my age. We’ve been together since we were 21, and I wish that the whole ‘rice queen’, ‘potato queen’ thing would just go away. But still, it does fascinate me – hence the reason I’m reading this post.
Hi,
I would REALLY appreciate a RESPONSE, as I feel I am losing my mind.
I seem to have developed an Addiction to attractive Caucasian White-collar men over 30.
It started as an attraction, but now it is becoming an obsession.
I am an attractive very fit Turkish guy with brown skin, and I have six pack abs, a swimmer build and muscular arms. I often think I should go for guys my own age (im 26) but when I see a 40 year old handsome man in a suit shopping at the grocery store, I get very sexualyl frustrated. I Feel like I must have sex with him. Often I walk around the aisle trying to look at him and pass by. I feel so disgusted by my obsession. I feel weird and want to stop this!
I have also deleted grindr off my phone, but the thought keeps coming back. I often leave work early to rush home to masturbate to pictures of caucasian professional men. Often masturbating 4 times a day. This is becoming unhealthy. And I seriously want help. I am closeted and not out, and cant talk to anyone about this.
I even get dreams of me kissing the hands and feet of handsome men over 30, giving them a massage and servicing them (oral).
I just want to end this obsessive thoughts. It seems it is never enough. And now the reason I am writing here is because just the other day I bumped into a hot 40ish professional man, and we talked a little, but I regretted not making a pass at him. It would have been risky because he could have been straight. But I wanted to have sex with him. ANd I later obsessed about the missed encounter for weeks! That is when I knew something must be wrong with my mind. I’ve been frequenting DILF websites, my porn folder is overflowing with men in suits face-f*king guys my age, and now enough is enough. If someone can please please give me a solution to ease my mind I will be greatly appreciative. I feel liek my mind is exploding. Everywhere I go, there is an average attractive white man over 30, and i literally feel insane to the point of INSANITY!!! PLEASE HELP>
You are pathetic.
And you are mean to someone who is obviously in pain.
You must get out of “lust” if you ever want to find “love”. You are the master of your mind & body. Find another hobby that will promote self-awareness & self-control. You can do it. Don’t “try” to change, make the “choice” to change. “Trying”, to me, is a sign of struggling. Delete the overflowing folders, change your current mindset, & take control of your thoughts. It will be hard but keep making the “choice” to change it. Cheering you on & looking for your success. Big hugs from a mom.
What!!!!! Bit over generalization on your part. My Asian husband is 12 years younger and now into our 7th year together while we have bitch fests we just keep trying. I am sure what you say goes on but to blanket a race as using another is morally bankrupt.
But by all means let us move back to segregation. That’s a big step forward.
This is quite sad for Asians. I have been a fan of caucasian men ever since I realized that I am gay and they have been the subject of my fantasies…but I have to admit that I have to change my preferences now and as early as possible especially that I am in a multiracial and hard-to-admit but racist city, Dubai.
Almost every other profile in Planetromeo per se, says “NO ASIANS” and it’s feels so aggravating.
The main thing that has to be considered here is our preference and individuality which has to be respected.
This is article is just an eye opener for every Asian guy. I also don’t think that this article is biased. For so long, we, Asians have been influenced by the mass media where every aspect of beauty is all about “white people.”
Appreciate your own race first before appreciating others.
You are crazy. The article is extremely biased and feeding into stereotypes. They are hateful racist comments against white people…which simply aren’t true.
I m asian guy..my first crush is asian in my own race..I like white guy bjt I can never love them ..I still love him and its been 2 yrs ..we did sex every night cuz I live in hisgel and he has gf..I ve same feeling ..I love indian guys..asian guy who love whiye cuz they have been watching Hollywood and white porn..I love bollywood and I want my wedding to be like bollywood. I love indian culture .I find women r more beautiful than white women like ashwaria bachan and priyanka chopra..I find bollywood actor sharukh khan extremely way too sexy specially his neck and jhon abharam ..i ve been watching bollywood since j was baby and I don’t know or understand indian language..I ve lots of indian frds and my besy frd is french ..he would get mad because I spend more time with indoan..I gossip abt bollywood and their movies.. I find k pop actors annoying except rain bi (super gentle men and hot) ..my closest frd is black guy..I don’t find them acctractive ..I m afraid of their blue eyes ..may be in future I might change but til now my love for indian never change ..I still love my first asian crush or sex frd
I’m not exclusively attracted to white guys. Outside of East Asians, I’m attracted to all races, hispanic, black, middle eastern, South Asian. As long as they are attractive, then I’m attracted to them. East Asians celebs that make me sweat like a pig include: Ito Hideaki, Takizawa Hideaki, Kim Kang Woo, Lee Dong Wook, Won Bin, Kenji Sakaguchi, just to name a few. Kim Kang Woo is like my #1 celebrity crush for a long time.
I seem to have a preference for Japanese and Korean men though.
However, there is something to that fair complexion, those large eyes with long eye lashes and baby blues that I very much want a piece of. As is for everybody I think. Blue eyes and light hair and skin partially evolved due to sexual preference to begin with. People valued those traits and so they made more babies with those traits. I think the attraction to lightness is rather universal.
I have to honestly say that the idea of a tall sandy haired boy being into me is very enticing. Mainly because I grew up watching nothing but movies and TV with white people in them, thus it feels just so….familiar to me. I get turned on by men of every race, but I always get the real crushes on Koreans and white guys. I guess I’m weird.
I’m Caucasian Australian and I’m 29… I’ve been with my korean partner for 7 years. He is 32. Yes he likes whites and I like Asians.. But we don’t prefer it… We just happen to meet and fall in love. I have enjoyed my 20s in a serious relationship to the point that in have sponsored him through a defacto visa… And I assure you with dieting and looking after my skin I am often mistaken for being 6 years younger… Maybe I’m an exception to the rule… However I do hate the white old guy that seek and use younger Asian men as toys… It is indeed these men who will end up alone
Hi everyone
I’m a white Aussie bloke, 41 years old.
I find this article quite depressing.
I have dated mainly white Australian men in my life but recently started dating a 36 year old Malaysian Chinese man who I think I am falling in love with.
It seems like there is racism and stereotypes coming at me from all angles.
I don’t want to be seen as a ‘rice queen’. Why do we have to be labelled?
I have 20-something year old Asian guys wanting to date me but I reject them because they are too young – nothing to do with their race.
I like this Chinese man because I like him. Not because of his race. I find him physically attractive and we click.
You article is painting all white gay men as selfish bastards. It’s not true.
I find it a bit offensive to be honest.
There are racist people in EVERY race and you know it. Chinese people are no better – or worse.
I fell in love with a Chinese man who is only 5 years younger than me. I wouldn’t date anyone younger than that because it’s embarrassing. I have too much pride.
I do have a little pot belly but SO WHAT? It comes and goes when I get time to exercise. I work hard and donate time and money to a lot of charities. I am a good person. I am offended that I am being lumped in with some fantasy group of racist assholes that YOU have created in your mind.
Why can’t I just love my partner for who he is and everyone just leave us alone?
It’s so tiresome really. I am going to cop racism from Australians who don’t like asians and I am going to cop racism from asians who will call my boyfriend a ‘potato queen’.
Gee whiz.
Cool story.
Thank you for an intelligent post. I thought the original poster was quite a racist
This article rude, flawed, deeply biased, offensive, and discriminatory
Well after 9 years with my Japanese Partner Akihiko I can say I’m so glad I was chased and caught and couldn’t be more gratefull. We are open and have been from the start we both agreed at the beginning that that’s how it would be , I love Him dearly we are still intimate every day . As far as I’m concerned your theory can be true and have seen it but honesty ,respect, and kindness are essential .
The reason you feel and trying to prove you are right is because you are Asian living in US. If you are white live in Aisa, you may feel same.
Because more gay or st8 people attract similar to himself which means asian likes asian more too.
That is just natural thing I guess.
Just gotta say, this article is targeted at white guys using and abusing asian guys, but havent we forgotten that a lot of men (gay or straight) are just plain douchebags? I am a white guy, I lived in Japan for two years, after the first year I realized dating asian men there was pointless, as I was just their “white” accessory and walking dictionary, emotionally they treated me like complete crap. For the second year I only dated other foreigners in the country.
All I can say is that, regardless of our backgrounds, we all gotta calibrate our douchebag radars and get better at filtering them out to find the decent guys. If you just keep dating the douchebags, then of course you’re gonna get used. Its not right but sadly its the truth.