Many gay Asians have a problematic addiction to potatoes, aka white guys. I was there myself. For years, I always pictured the “ideal guy” for me to be a dashingly handsome white guy with the perfect features – blue eyes, sandy hair, and a bit taller than me.
Lucky for me, I woke up in time to smell the coffee. Many of my fellow gay Asians aren’t so fortunate. They stick to their proverbial guns and hang to the pipe dream of landing a white male model, even when they’re years past their dating prime.
If you’re a potato queen, I have news for you. You need to get over your addiction to white guys ASAP. Here’s why:
1. You need white guys more than they need you
For every white guy who’s open to dating an Asian, there are no fewer than 3 Asians fighting for his attention.
White guys are the least willing of all the races to date outside their own racial group, and when they do, there’s plenty of competition for them.
Don’t believe me? The folks over at OkCupid, one of the biggest free dating sites, collect statistics on this stuff. The picture isn’t rosy…
- White guys are almost 4 times as likely as Asians to say they strongly prefer to date someone of their own race (43% vs 12%)
- White guys only reply to Asians 35% of the time when they make contact, whereas Asians respond 55% of the time to white guys
See the disparity? There’s a much bigger potential pool of Asians seeking white guys, which means it’s a white guy’s market. Actually, going strictly by reply rates (read the chart vertically downwards), white men are the biggest snobs on OkCupid, with the lowest reply rates of anyone.
And even if you get lucky…
2. You’ll eventually get dumped for a younger, cuter Asian
White people invented the concept of leasing a car and trading it in when it’s old, and they’ve carried that concept over to their dating lives too.
97% of the time when you see an East-West (Asian-White) couple, it’s an older white guy with a substantially younger Asian. Because there are many more Asians seeking white guys than vice versa, white guys have plenty of choice, while potato-seeking Asians have to settle for whatever they can get. Usually, it’s an older, often chubbier white guy who, for all his shortcomings, is, well, white.
Years down the road when you’re getting a bit long in the tooth, you can expect to be traded in for a younger, hotter Asian model, and there will be plenty of those to choose from.
3. Rice queens don’t care about you as an individual
Although your average white guy is a poor dating choice for all the reasons above, you should be extra suspicious of rice queens.
A rice queen is a special variety of white guy that primarily (or exclusively) dates Asians. You may think that you’ve hit pay dirt when you land a rice queen, but you should beware – they only like you because you’re Asian.
White guys become rice queens because they like smooth skin, smaller bodies and what they perceive as more submissive personalities of Asian guys. When a rice queen sees you, he notices only those features he’s attracted to, not necessarily your other qualities.
At some point down the road, your rice queen will find an even better Asian who embodies even more of the qualities he likes, and you might end up sitting on the curb on garbage day.
4. Potatoes age faster
White guys age faster than us Asians, at least on the surface. Caucasian skin tends to be thinner and looser, and more susceptible to wrinkling at an earlier age. White men also gain a considerable amount of weight sometime after their early 20s, and that weight gain continues steadily until middle age, at which time it’s pretty rare to find a white guy who doesn’t have a visible beer gut.
What this means is that your 25-year-old Abercrombie model will see his looks depreciate considerably by age 35, and will almost certainly wind up in the visual bargain bin by age 45. How often do you hear people saying to white guys “OMG you’re 38?? You look 10 years younger!” And yet it happens all the time to Asians.
5. You will end up old and lonely
For all the reasons above, you’re unlikely to land the white guy of your dreams. And even if you luck out, it may be short lived.
A disproportionate number of my old, lonely gay friends are Asians and the one thing they share in common is a strong preference to date exclusively white guys. Year after year as they age they become even less attractive to the white guys who, as we’ve seen, have plenty of younger, cuter Asians to choose from.
If gay Asians want to do themselves a favor, they might consider being more open-minded to dating any other race besides white men, perhaps even giving other Asians a chance. It’s probably not a good idea to base a relationship on superficial physical criteria like skin, hair or eye color, which narrows down your choice of partners. Yes, physical attraction is difficult to consciously change but everyone’s looks fade over time and physical attraction is only a small part of successful long term relationships. At least, that’s been my experience.
It could be a matter of luck and alertness to get him.
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I should go back to sleep you are as racist as the angry Asian homo. You need to understand that rice queens finds us. White America because the only racial thing with me is I don’t find white guys attractive. My Asian husband and I would like to address you all to say. Love has no boundaries. Respect study it so you can grow. Get rid of HATE. If you don’t understand physical attraction is important too your doomed for ltr/husband/life partner. I (1-2 German 1/4 Irish and1/4 Native American) will happily marry my Malaysian-Chinese husband of 15 years. He will be able to put American behind Chinese then. Stop hating just find ur mr right
Feel sorry for you that you have so much hate. Let me tell you a story boy. You are a racist who like to think you are smart but everybody of maturity knows better. Chicken Hawks are chicken Hawks off all races. Since you are a minority then yes the ratios can very from where ever you are in the World. So say you was from Tennessee some white guys will not date outside there race like the KKK or Kentucky white power. So if you want to talk bs then know crap. I been in 3 large 1st was white guys one 3 years the other 7. Been with the same asian guy 15 years we will marry in a few months. We also have numerous gay “rice/potatoe”couples with children and living monogamous relationship. If your any color and your cruising like trash then you will find trash. Some of us has the ability to know what we want and seek it like a man of our choices not yours. I been in the asin an community for the last 20 years. The only asian I dated before was a bar fly who was so self centered and immature I had trade him in for a better not younger. By the way I am only half potato and half Cherokee so quit your insults and talk to mature couples. Not gay sex chats and bars you will find crap if you look for it anywhere any race but when you throw such views out there like you then it makes legitimate couples pisssed that you want to push you racist views and lies with no proof of what you say. Go do what my partner did get some mental help. With the hate and distrust you show here you will never find a man from any race who will put up with you more then 3 years. It’s way harder to live in the closed minded asian community the a white community and this is by experience not chatter. I wasn’t going to write because it looks like you just need attention. Then so you got it but if you want to live quality quit being your own physchologist and find one. You don’t even realize your disrespectful to your race by telling there wrong when they been with the same people for15-20 years. If like to check there are rice and potatoes couples like this everywhere legally married. So as bad as you hate white men you will see more asian white couples because asian will marry amarican men(majority potato)men to get to America. Quit being a racist. We see that hate has taken you over. Live your life but don’t tell others how to do something you know nothing about. This might sound mean but my partner finds the asian body ugly just like I find white ugly. You can change a persons attitude but the looks isn’t there they are friends because physical effect ion is important in a Marriage. So if your looking for a good Man stay away from gay chats and bars etc….. Don’t jump into bed with every man you meet or find attractive if you do then yes you will find Chicken Hawks of all races try dating 1st sex later. Your looking through the wrong glasses take the gay social seen out and try to find you a man to suit you and quit judging until your at least mature enough to know that any of your little test project are bios so has zero meaning. You should also tell people where you got your stats. Now you can say this is my 1/2 potato coming out. The stats is just. Bs you pulled out of your butt if you like to meet some long term couples then open your eyes there everywhere. The getting older part is also BS you just think you look younger I can how old any asian like any other race but your blind. I hope you wake up
Surely the article came on a little strong but as an Asian man I can relate to some of the author’s sentiment.
There are plenty of great people in Melbourne, Australia but the sheer number of racist encounters that happened to me, my friends and family here is astonishing. As a medical student I was twice asked to leave the room because the patient wasn’t comfortable with me being there, then told later it was because of my ethnicity. The gay community here is unsurprisingly similar, which used to intrigue me as I have always wondered why discriminate our own when we as a group are being discriminated every day?
I personally am attracted to all races, granted a shy and polite Japanese guy, an older furry middle eastern businessman or a good old ginger Aussie bloke would easily spark a little tent in my pants, I have yet to write anyone off purely based on race. I however have been rejected back in the days because I am Asian, and funny enough once because I am not asian enough.
My experience in Australia has deterred me slightly from white guys, as much as I’d hate to admit. I know this itself is racist, but despite how much I’m fighting it it’s still happening. It’d be nice to just be a guy and not THE Asian guy. It’d be nice to not have to reiterate I’m actually six foot and masculine on chats. It’d also be nice to not have to meet the expectations of being slim, muscly or submissive. And yes I speak English, and I’m not after your money or the Australian citizenship.
The whole race thing used to upset me a great deal. It still bugs me but as I’m approaching my late 20s I’ve learnt t acknowledge it and shrug it off. Any advice to completely shield myself from all these crap are very welcome!
Or I can always move to Japan/hong kong/Thailand. I was so pleasantly surprised by the attention i got when i was there. This never happens back home haha 🙂
🙁 Please accept this big hug *BIG HUGGGG* I have read many stories about this racist Australia, so this is more proof that it’s not just a problem in the U.S.
I truly hope you find a guy with a mutual attraction, and that you become happier than any white guy could ever be 😀
Have you considered that maybe some Asians only find white guys physically attractive? What’s superficial to you may be innate to them. It may not be a matter of preference. Would you say the same if you replaced “white guys” with “women”?
I disagree – we know psychologically people have preferences but we’ve not determined a genetic reason for “racial” preference whereas your sexuality is determined genetically. You cannot choose to be gay or straight, but you can choose to give someone a chance.
And many Patato queens are only into White guys not just because they find white guys attractive (the proof is the guys they dated are not really physically good looking at all, ether old, or ugly, or short, or out of shape, or had bad personality or don’t have decent career, and these are all factors make them not competitive in the white-white dating market) but more importantly these Asians consider white men are the first class and Asian themselves as second or third class. By having a white boy friend these Asians have a fantasy that they become close to first class.
I also know even many sticky rice (Asian only into Asian) still admire Asians who have white boyfriends because many of sticky rice wanted to find white boyfriends but because of the cold reality, they either could not find an ideal one or got hurt several times by white guys, so they have to switch themselves to so called ‘sticky rice’ category. Another sad fact, isn’t it?
I think it’s normally understandable for most of white guys into white guys only. But the abnormal scenery is most of Asians are not into Asians. They just create their own tragedy….
It’s painfully obvious English isn’t your primary language. People will tend to agree with you more if you don’t come across as bitchy
Sounds like arrogance and ignorance are all you have in your dictionary. You can barely analyze things logically by yourself!! So please SHUT your stinky mouth and stop saying things on behalf of people you are even not familiar with.
Tyson you are correct but the people who agrees with this angry homo doesn’t understand love respect. They seem to not understand how racist which is ignorant. Love has no racial barriers. I(1/4 Native American 1/4irish 1/2 German)was just proposed to by my life partner(chinese, m’laysian) of 14 years and we trust respect and love each other then 14 years ago. Before respect trust came 1st but bet you if we did not find each other attractive then we wouldn’t of made it past the 1 st date. Maybe not 1st base.
Hah, it’s true, mutual trust is definately a fundenmetal thing between any type of relationship, and congratulations on your marriage! I am chinese myself and surly had experienced similar situations as the post owner, I am into white guys more often than into guys in my own race, but it’s because there is only a small pool of Asian people in my area let alone the attractive ones to me. Even if i am genetically attractive to white guys more and do not receive the same response, I wouldn’t think i am any less attractive to anyone or absurdly any general race. Being together means a mutual appreciaion and those who think we are inferior surly deserve no love from us. So I really want to bring out some good vibes for asian guys living in the US that it will get better and the right one will eventually show up as long as you love, cherish and respect youself as much as you want from your loved ones. More importantly, live your life to the fullest by achieving your career or life goal independently, make yourself someone actually matters!! Then I believe Mr. Right will be along way!!
Many rice queens are seniors. They were not necessarily rice queen when they were young. In their young age, their first choice was still their own race. Many of them even did not care to look at Asians. Only when they are getting really old they are not attractive in other white guys’ eyes especially younger ones eyes. They are left alone. This time they think about Asians because even cutest young Asian would date a ugly old white guy with a body out of shape. And of course, Asians have a common cultural that is willing to take care of elderlies. And together with Asian’s loyal nature that becomes another reason white old white guys like Asians because they believe Asians can stay with them till they die and take care of them. It’s really sad for these Adians unless they just want to find a sugar daddy to take over their properties.
Your a racist idiot because old white guys are supporting asian men all over this country for ever asian who should be back in Asia because they live in America I think your as angry as the writer. Sorry you can’t find a man. Change the mind find someone keep your closed mind and mouth shut. I been in the gay community the last 20 years I am potato/Cherokee and proud to say I have dated all races.
Again, you are generalizing the whole gay community. More importantly, your tone of speaking already revealed your racist and arrogant nature! It’s just really funny to see you actually daring to post something here to propagandize the whole first class BS! And being a white man yourself, don’t you realize how stupid it is to speak on behalf of those ‘sticky rice’ that they admire those with a white boyfriends? You whole post is just as crappy and stupid as you are yourslf! Please think thoroughly before you spit it out in public, which will surely benefit yourself from being a clown!
I think we’re all avoiding the pink elephant in the room.. The real issue is how white guys can grow the perfect stubble and always have amazing bed head. Which I very much enjoy more than pinkberry.
I just want to say as a white guy (27) dating an asian (33), I strongly disagree with PARTS of this post. My partner and I are in a happily committed relationship and intend to tie the knot in the next year. I’ve never been happier, and while I admit I’m one of the few white guys who DOESN’T prefer to date his race, we are not that rare. As someone who has lived in Chicago, SF, LA and now resides in New York, I can say that Midwest boys tend to stick within their race as do LA boys for the most part; yet my experience in SF and NY were not the same. Interracial relationships are beautiful and finding love is no easier within your own race than outside of it. To the asian guys out there be true to yourself, don’t settle. You have to go through the assholes and losers (and any jerk who turns you down over race is both a loser and ass hole -I’ve never turned anyone down over race white, Asian, Indian, Latino or Black) to find Mister Right. The larger problem within our community is the dissention within and among each racial group and the self-deprication we see running rampant. I will agree with the 3-1 ratio, but if I include all races that went after me when I was single the ratio would be higher. We need to face the ugly truth that more often than not relationships within our community whether platonic or romantic tend to be driven by superficial motives first, rather than what lies beneath the surface. But the guy who took the time to see me for what lies beneath won my heart as opposed to those who were focusing on what’s skin deep. So for the ‘potato queens’ out there, don’t lose hope – keep searching. If finding ‘the one’ was easy than it wouldn’t be so special. Btw- as a former Abercrombie model, hazel eyes, sandy hair, slightly taller than my partner, I have one thing to say: anything is possible if you believe it. Yes there will be guys who are not into you, but last I checked that was their loss not yours and it narrows the playing field, so to speak, so you can focus on the guys worth your time (even though they may not be white, or may have a couple guys vying for their attention simaltaneously – my father always said nothing worthwhile comes easily). Yes you will always see younger and older matches, more often that has to do with underlying daddy issues within our community or that’s just the match that works for them because age really is an unnecessary restrictor. But saying white guys will trade in for the ‘younger’ and ‘hotter’ model like a car lease isn’t love and isn’t someone you’d want to date anyways because love knows no age or race and love doesn’t have a time limit or require periodic trade ins like a lease. So while I understand your frustration, don’t let it get the best of you because the guy that’s worth your time, doesn’t subscribe to social norms and when it’s right, it’s right.
This is sad…
It’s like gay Asian men idolize a type of men that isn’t right for them.
If you try to ignore stereotypes, you just get excluded.
I guess my best suggestion is to invest in relationships that doesn’t exclude any part of your identity.
Find compassion for anyone who can’t define beauty for themselves.
And most importantly, find compassion and respect for yourself, in that way in which we can believe we aren’t hardwired by what is told to us, but rather from what we experience, create, and decide for ourselves.
Well I’m half-black and half Filipino and I am mainly attracted to East Asian men but I don’t know if the feeling would be mutual. I have asian friends but we are just friends and I would have it no other way. I do dream of having a nice and cute asian boyfriend but a lot of them seem to only like white guys. Maybe it’s not my time yet since i’m only 20 and really don’t ever go clubbing. But i’m not settling. I’d rather be forever single than settle.
Chicken Hawks comes in all races. So judging why a 40yo man is bar cruising.
My partner and I been together for 15 years we met and chatted 6 months before we decided to Try to make a relationship. The views of of is racially motivated by hate.
Most everything i said was censored so Asian attitudes most white guys can’t put up with it and asian guys un willing to change. Why should we as one of the 5 reason trade you in for another/younger model my 35 legal husband knows there is only one model husband for me. I have my own money too so Most things on this page is not true at all. Let this be known most Asians are in the closet. Fair? See change Driving open people crazy of all races!!!!,
I am Pinoy!
Where are you angry guys dating??? My goodness! White guys are attracted to Asians and vice versa because we are intellectually on the same playing ground and more than any other race whites and asians tend to be more loyal. Plain and simple! Everybody needs somebody to take care of and get taken care of in return and I do not mean that sexually.
Yes, there is a social hierarchy in gay culture, and yes it does disproportionately favor white men, but I wouldn’t go so far as to say that it favors ALL white men. It has more to do with our own preconceived standards of beauty than anything else. Many gays have been conditioned by their community into believing the existing stereotypes, and it has shaped their ideals when it comes to a prospective partner. These stereotypes exist because much of our community is too shallow and short-sighted to see past the tips of their own noses. Maybe if everyone stopped subscribing to the groupthink that has contributed to these ideas and tried to see things as individuals, we wouldn’t have this problem. That being said, a person doesn’t have much influence over who they find attractive.
I agree. I think there is a lot of stereotyping and as an Asian man I’m not immune to projecting it myself. I think all we can do is be aware of it and slowly try and include other types of men in our lives as friends, lovers, family, work mates,…and just keep and open mind and watch our words. It’s too easy to abuse back what we get.
I am a 20 year old white guy. My boyfriend is a 25 year old Asian guy. We are both 6 feet tall and he happens to be the more dominate one. He is thin and smooth, yes, but that does not mean his personality is submissive. All I’m saying is that every situation is different, and every relationship is unique.
I’m one of those getting older still hitting on the fairly young asian guys, rice queens. I found this post to be fucking hilarious.I took some of it as hyperbole. That being said from as far back as when I was 25 until now, I’ve been rejected tons of times. And honestly I was pretty cute back then
To be clear: I thought the writing to be hilarious, but not the sentiments expressed.
As a black man, I’ve experienced alot of this as well. The detail with which you write makes palpable the feeling if rejection which I too have exerience while chasing white men. Truly revelatory. Thank you.
And thank you for posting. Truly, I appreciate it. (What I mean is this is not a sarcastic comment.)
yes. the clarity of these articles is wonderful. also black here.
For the last 10 years, I’ve had multiple profiles on Squirt with different pictures. Two posing as caucasians and two being asian. Caucasians tend to pick their own racial type and I can concur with most caucasians not responding. They stereotype asians as short dicked and fem. The ads are “no fems” or “no asians – they just don’t turn me on.” No offense. Yet if you’re also an older caucasian, you’ll still get hits and messages than a young 25 yr old asian.
Even for anonymous sex, (eg anon gloryhole sex), you won’t get an invite by a caucasian sucker if you’re asian but if you’re a caucasian (doesn’t matter much on age), you’ll still get hit or a response. Average dick pics on caucasian profiles still hit more than large dicked asian profiles. So there is a general discrepancy and relative proof that homosexuals are typically gentrified.
It’s the age of growing up Ken and Barbie, Abercrombie caucasian boys, tv, ads, and high profile “caucasians” including ‘hispanic or person” because they’re NOT ASIAN. They’re considered ‘white’. Yes… white! Imagine that?
Homosexuals are their own worst enemies. Toting sexual equality and tolerance but many of us know (and have seen), intolerance amongst our own community. Not willing to keep an open mind and putting one person amongst the same.
I’ve seen mid aged caucasian guys give blowjobs in the parks to 65 yr olds but turn away asians in their 30s-40s. (yes..i’m in that group). It’s bs and I have one advice for asians looking out there. Learn to cook, learn your culture, focus on your career and love yourself and family. Stop looking, have fun, ignore the ignorance because it’s not going to go away soon. Not in your lifetime. Believe me.
Imperialist white capitalist patriarchy has entered the gay world just as easily and killing your libido too?
A good looking guy s good looking regardless. Some people r closed minded, some r not. It’s a half and half situation. Giving a bj to a 65 years old s just freaking nasty. That’s their preference u could say. Some ppl r into poop. They’re out there alright. And yes I find it annoying that most white guys just always feel the need to prove their white privilage. Its like they need to prove their dick head existence. I used to hear them making those gay asian jokes in the gay circles . It was just so fucking hateful. Now it doesn’t happen much, but dick heads just don’t get tired. I really think it is the asians fault sometime. You just keep looking for those white guys. My advise stick to ur own people and stay away from white guys. Stay away. If all you complain about white privilage then why continue to contribute to it. The universal theme? What goes around comes around. Maybe in the future their privilage will drive them into extinction.
Geez I hate the blatant ageism on this site! Giving a bj to a 65 year old is nasty? Get over yourself girl. Quite a few younger men like older men. Just because you think it’s nasty doesn’t make it a fact. You’ll be 65 someday yourself, so remember, what goes around comes around.
Why? Can you go blow another white guy like you who’s 65? Let me know how that goes. Lol
OK since you asked, it went very well. Both of us were happy.
Also, please understand that I totally agree with you about the ugly racism that sometimes comes out of white men’s mouths. It’s disgusting and I have on occasion interrupted and challenged it. The only part I didn’t like was your idea that sex with a 65 year old is nasty. If that’s true, what happens for the older Asian man? Do you care about them at all, or is it that once they are over 45 they cease to exist for you ?
The rest of your post was fine, I thought, and reflected your own experience, so we can learn from it.
preach! i’m not asian, i’m black but i know, i know i know….
this is the path i am on. i am focusing on loving myself, focusing on my art/work, and forgetting how effed up the “master” race can be. cuz it’s not changing anytime soon, like u have said. the social equality may come first, but the bed room relationship equality- i just don’t see it in our lifetime.
That is probably because you only look at “Grade A” asians. If you said about being too old/fat/ugly, what did you do when you were still young? I bet you only go for white guys at that time. So far I’ve seen white men mostly 45+ start to look for asian because the market has drop for white boys. I go for REAL white guys but what they did to me totally unacceptable. Treated me like a toilet paper. *sigh* Don’t say its full of shit when you don’t even look at average asians.
This is some of the most racist bullshit I have ever seen. Every gay asian I have ever encountered wouldn’t give me so much as a GLANCE. I’ve been part of every gay asian facebook group, and dating site known to man, and I couldn’t even get them to RESPOND to me if I message them. I’ve been told I’m too old/ugly/fat by a ton of them IF they respond. So the whole “asian guys are fighting for white guys attention is about the biggest load of shit I have ever heard. Asian men only fight for their ideal, perfect, white, muscle boy type. They don’t go for REAL guys who are average and not pretty boy types. I’ve pretty much given up on my dream of landing an Asian man, because I can tell it’s never going to happen. I’m not blond, or blue eyed, with a 28 waist, and washboard abs. I think I will stick to other races, where I can at least get the courtesy of a RESPOND when I message them.
“This is some of the most racist bullshit I have ever seen. Every gay asian I have ever encountered wouldn’t give me so much as a GLANCE. ”
Have you ever considered it’s because you are ugly? I mean take a good honest look at the mirror under bright lighting. Would you hit that?
Seriously, I’m so sick of white men thinking that every Asian man owes him their undivided attention and should be boot-lickingly grateful that any white guy paid them any attention. Asian men don’t owe you shit!
Remy’s right! Asians don’t owe you shit! Just because you’re white, fat, ugly and very likely have a small penis and/or erectile dysfunction that an Asian man should suddenly be happy you have them a message!? Seriously if you can’t look at your reflection in the mirror and think you’d hit on that person in the mirror then you have nothing to offer! Move along and I’m very happy to hear that there some still some Asian men out there with some brain cells left who didn’t make a mistake in your favour! Now you know what’s it like to be rejected as much as an Asian man except Asians unlike you disgusting white fatties with erectile dysfunction don’t cry as much because we don’t have a built in sense of entitlement courtesy of white privilege. Men like you belong only underground like in E. M. Forster’s The Machine Stops. Bye!
This motherfucker right here…this Jordan character is exactly the piece of shit that makes Asian men angry. If you’re fat, old, white, shriveled with nothing to offer a younger Asian man who is ten times more beautiful than what nature could do alone for any honky then you should learn to leave it alone! If you got burned because you tried to score with people light years out of your league then you got what you asked for! Asian men get rejected all the time even be uglier honkies like you Jordan so don’t fret that you get rejected! You and your white privilege think you can just get whatever you want when you want it.
As a normal gay asian, I have to say something about what you said because I’m a little angry about it. How can you be so sure that it’s your own problem instead of ours’? For most cases, gay asians you can encounterhave seen tons of white guys? Of course they would choose the best ones. Tell me, when you go shopping, wouldn’t you consider the most ideal clothes first? I’m not saying it’s good, but don’t forget, gay asians are also men just like white guys! You said you’ll stick to other races, that’s totally up to you. But are you implying that other gay men won’t go after the cutest, most handsome man???
As for the reply problem, you’re going after them because they are Asians, not because who they real are.(plus you don’t have a good body like you said) If someone do that to you, will you reply? Even if they are being really rude no to say something, can you blame them???
I’m sorry if I offend you. Just trying to make a point. You have all the rights to blame someone in particular, but please leave some space for the rest of the Asians.
If you can’t pleasure your man, he will dump you regardless of your race….
I think every situation and every individual is different. I particularly find asian men very attractive and quickly labeled “rice queen” but the last guy I fell in love with is a black man. I particularly find attractive most men of non-white/european ethnicities, but that doesn’t exclude them. At the end of the day, I take personality in much stronger account. And right now I am talking to a sexy latin man, I hope we end up having a romance. I think the way our culture is now, it is enhancing how we objectify people in general… regardless of what asian boys complain about. It happens to everyone. We need to be more accepting of each other overall rather than divide ourselves into homosexual subgroups which discriminates each other.
” regardless of what asian boys complain about. It happens to everyone. ”
SUCH a typical white-male response. The crux of the issue is that such racial profiling/discrimination/stereotyping happens very disproportionately — exacerbated by people like you who don’t recognize your own white privilege.
Commentators here who say “but i’m white and i like all races!!!” or “i’m white and asian guys snub me” are totally missing the point. It’s not about your petty individual feelings or experiences. It’s about systematic problems of race and racism among gays. I wouldn’t recommend taking the advice of this article literally, but I think it’s relevant insofar as it invites us to consider and imagine how we might make gay communities more friendly to racial minorities, more equal to all.
Ilove Asian guys i had one Asian guy kept contacting me im am older white guy he was sexy as but all he wanted was to F..k me .
I now have cute Chinese boy we are just friends and nothing more
He is really very cute .
As an Asian man I think it’s important under the imperialist white capitalist patriarchy supremacy that I live in to develop a healthy aversion for the white men who consciously disregard my humanity and validity as a person and to celebrate my Asianess!
Great article!! It is true!
Article clearly ignores:
– that Asians and anyone other race might ever get together
– that any race preferring any other race isn’t different
– “you’ll eventually get dumped for a younger, cuter” applies to same-race couples and straight couples and pretty much everyone. so be the person who no one would dare to let go.
– that the “pipedream of landing a […] model” really has nothing to do with race and more to do with [you’re not good looking enough to date models]
– that Asians and [other race] might be in normal relationships
– that there is a fundamental difference between Asians* (from Asia) and Westerners who are ethnically Asian
– or, in our case, that I don’t see his different race but I very much note he is also from Southern California and therefore we are from the same culture.
“normal relationships” WTF? *face palm*
Your comment completely ignores anything relevant and progressive.
This is racist bullshit, full of generalisations, anger and stupidity.
You should try to get over it! If you always act like that in a relationship, no wonder you seem to get dumped all the time.
Um…yeah. It is full of anger and homosexuality. The website is called “AngryHomosexual”. What part did you not understand?