Who doesn’t like being a hot white guy? You’re pretty much a Greek god in the gay community and there really isn’t anybody you can’t get. For others, you often find “no asians, no blacks” in dating profiles, which shows how racist and white-centric gay dating can be.
You see, there’s a totem pole of races in the gay community, with white people at the very top. It sorta goes like this: White, Latino (honorary whites), Mixed, Asian, Black, Indian, etc. This hierarchy is responsible for all kinds of phenomena in the gay world. Take, for example, the fact that Asian-White couples often consist of an older white guy with a younger Asian. Or at the very least, an Asian who’s substantially more attractive than his white counterpart. It’s never the other way around.
The bias extends to pop culture. When was the last time you saw an Asian Abercrombie model? All of the main characters on Queer as Folk were white. Heck, all the main characters in the latest HBO gay drama Looking are white even though the show is set in San Francisco where a third of gays are Asian. And of course, how can we forget about gay porn?
And so I wanted to find out for myself what every gay Asian knows – no matter how hot or young you are, you’ll suffer the inevitable Asian “discount” that’s applied when you hit the dating/hookup market. What better way than on the most shameless, unapologetic, and narcissistic venue: Grindr.
The Asian vs. White Grindr Experiment
Who’s hotter?
I whipped out two phones, loaded Grindr, and put two similar looking jocks to the test: 28, 5’10”, 170lbs, muscular, 8”uc. What’s not to like? Their profiles were exactly the same except one was Asian and the other white. I carried around the two phones for a week to different cities and here’s what happened.
Raw uncut data
So being Asian my whole life, I finally know how it feels to be a hot white guy for a week. The white guy comfortably gets 1.5 – 2x more messages than the Asian. There’s no other conclusion than it’s great to be white. You’ve got twice as many guys lined up ready to suck you off or get pounded by you.
Another thing you notice is that there are many hot guys who are simply off limits to Asians. Here’s one guy I tried to message as the Asian and it didn’t get very far. Gays love to use the “not my type” excuse as cover for any number of prejudicial preferences. When I message the same dude as the white guy, and I instantly get cockshots, details on how much he wants to pound my ass, and whether I can host.
As a hot white guy, you can expect a near 100% reply rate. In fact, you wind up with the problem that more guys are messaging you in a day than you can realistically sleep with in a month. This explains why as a white guy you can get away with being a complete douchebag. Why would you waste your time with anyone other than the cream of the crop? And why settle down when you can have an endless stream of orgies?
As an Asian, you can only hope to be so lucky to get the pleasure of a response. Just for fun, I sent a fellow Asian a message as the white guy. He thought it was some kind of joke, like I was a white guy coming to the back of the bus.
Conclusion
If you’re a hot white guy, keep on doing what you do best – being white. You’ve got it made until your skin starts to sag. But not to worry, you’ll still have younger Asians flocking to you.
If you’re not white, the only real solution to this problem is to pray to god that you’re born white next time. There’s an inherent bias against us and you need to know for all intents and purposes, you have no realistic chance of dating a hot white guy your own age. Changing the mentality of a whole community doesn’t happen overnight, and it certainly won’t happen in your generation.
Trust me there are plenty of white men that like flavor! I live in Ohio and im Latino and they flock to me! I just have fun and be myself and am pleasantly surprised when they hit on me, in person and on grindr. You have very many valid points though I’m not gonna lie, but who needs EVERY white guy to hit on them to be happy or even to find secual gratification? U said it yourself they get more hits then they could sleep with in a month lol. Just know u put a strong confident foot forward IN PERSON maybe not grindr white boys WILL BITE! Most white men I find to be pretty weak minded. Shit most men in general. They like what u tell them they like 😉 DO YOU BOO!
The original poster’s observation is correct: if you’re white, you have the pick of the litter. That said, if we’re talking strictly about sex, white guys are boring in the sack. And, as an older black guy (54), I don’t have an ageism problem. There’s a lot of ass out there; black, latin, PR, asian, ME, etc., etc., ad nauseum. Older (and old) guys can get laid by just about anyone. It’s your attitude, your fitness (I’m not crazy about topping an massively overweight/obese man or younger man), and you’re ability to attract what YOU want. I don’t have a problem – I’m able to attract them across all races and ethnicities. And if the man or younger guy of color is not interested, no problem. I just move on. It’s not that serious. It’s pointless to be angry about something you can’t control.
For purely carnal pleasure, I prefer men (40 and over) of color (i.e., all except white). For the younger guy (21-28), he can be any race/ethnicity because, around that age (at least the ones I’ve met) they’re still forming who they’ll become before the scrooge of racism smacks them in the face. Older white men are so fucking boring in the sack. It’s as though they’ve spent their entire time watching a bad porn movie and like to recreate that artificial, sterile, and contrived environment. Everything with them is “hot,” “stud,” “cock,” “hottie,” “bud,” and now, “bro” on top of those fake “oohs” and “ahhhs.” It’s so trite. Men and boys of color on the other hand… a bit more adventurous and exciting between the sheets. 😉
Please enlighten us with all the non- trite verbal attributes of men of “color” ?
Please wo wrongs don’t make a right. Such terrible generalizations, but it is about whites so that makes it acceptable
Many are confusing racism with attraction.
Racism – you treat someone as lesser because of their race
Attraction – you don’t want to sexually and romantically involve with someone because you aren’t attracted to them.
There is always a match out there. The point is to make yourself visible, explain clearly what you are looking for and interact properly when the opportunity arises.
I thought for long I have aged unattractively only to find it to be untrue given the number of attractive guys who want to be with me from all races. And no I am not white or black but Indian and proud of it. Don’t self hate or hate your race because someone didn’t reciprocate or has bad views about you.
Tad convenient, isn’t it ?
One is inherently racist against someone they find unattractive.
Just that in real life (social circle, job recruitment) it is much much easier to rationalize that rejection (without making the reason obvious) than in gay dating, when you are spreading your thigh to every 20 something athletic White man, and rejecting exactly same category coloured men.
Well, I’m not really qualified to comment because I have sex almost exclusively with women, but if a perfect opportunity presents itself, then sure, I a seriously enjoy some M2M fun, although it is usually just oral fun.
When I say a “perfect” opportunity, I mean an opportunity to suck a young Asian cock, and only a young Asian cock. I’m not racist, it is just my personal preference. I simply don’t get turned on enough by other races, and neither am I turned on by all young Asians, but occasionally I’ll see a youngish Asian guy, and I instantly know that I would gladly suck him off without even expecting any reciprocation.
Fortunately I have a young Asian friend (23 years old) who really loves getting blowjobs from me. He has a girlfriend, but I’m guessing that she is not into sucking his dick, or maybe she just isn’t as good as I am. He does sometimes suck me off, and he has topped me a few times, but mostly, it is just me sucking him. Feeling him cumming in my mouth is one of the hottest things I have ever experienced, whether it’s straight down my throat, or whether he fills my entire mouth. I love that feeling of him cumming; I love thought of taking it any way he wants to give it to me, and I have even grown to love the taste.
I am white and only a bit older than he is. The strange thing is, just the thought of any guy putting his cock in my mouth, let alone cumming in my mouth, is enough to make me feel sick. However, a lot of Asian guys have the exact opposite effect on me.
Another poster mentioned that older white guys with younger Asian guys is a “dominance” thing, but this clearly not always the case because I am in no way dominant. I am also not what you would call submissive. I simply enjoy sucking a dick that belongs to a young and slim Asian guy. I just wish it was easier to find more young Asians who would like to get regular blowjobs from a slightly older white guy.
I don’t understand why a sexual preference is considered racism. I have friends of all age, shape and color but I’m not sexually attracted by all races. Is something wrong with me? I don’t think so, so stop playing the victim and deal with it. There’s someone for everyone.
John likes Chocolate, Daniel likes Strawberry, Frank likes Vanilla : is preference.
All three likes Vanilla is not preference, it is bias aka racism.
Very easy to dismiss collective rejection (of all Non white races) as non-accountable personal level rejection, which it is not.
One who finds other races ugly is very likely to discriminate against them in recruitment, housing and every other social engagement, something which is much tougher to address under label of racism.
Ronny, you are just plain wrong. A person cannot control who they are sexually attracted to. To say a black MUST find a white attractive or they are “racist” is bullying at its worst. No different than someone telling a gay man he MUST be attracted to women despite his not being attracted to them at all. Sexual attraction is not like a job interview. An interview is to find the person most qualified to perform a job in a business. And if John, Daniel and Frank prefer to eat vanilla ice cream, that’s their own damned business. You eat what you like and let them eat what they like. Could you force yourself to date someone you are not physically attracted to??
I am Filipino Asian, I like Asian guys too, cute and yummy. Unfortunately there are many Asians doesn’t like Asian guys :(. I had been with younger white guys (legal age of course) or same age as me, some are Latino’s, I want to try black guys they are also hot, middle eastern are good looking, but most of them are aggressive (don’t like). Real talk, I love older guys, for me, no can compare the care the love the passion, understanding they can give. I LOVE CUDDLING with older guys.
I’m an older Asian (3rd gen Japanese) and although I understand the writer’s comments, this observation is a fact of life and is changing. White males have long been a dominant group in the world and especially in the western world. Being born in the 50’s in the US , I was a distinct minority, and the ideal masculinity was that of white jocks. Although, I’m convinced that gender preference gets fixed either genetically, or in the womb, other sexual attraction is determine but one’s own environment. It’s affected by people we meet, by family, by the media etc. Asian and non-white men have only recently been portrayed as positive male sexual objects, but I’ve noticed in my life that people seem to think that Asians make better long term partners.. which is obviously another stereotype. This attitude is changing as there are more Asians being visible and there appear to be a lot of hot white guys who like Asians compared to 30 years ago. I also think the numbers of Asians who prefer Asians has risen as well.
remember when I went out, if I wanted to get laid, I’d just go to an “Asian” bar and easily pick up a guy who I was attracted to and felt like one of the hottest guy in the room in a few minutes. Going to another bar, I still received attention, but I was probably like most other guys in the room. All this being said, if you’re looking strictly to have sex with a bunch of men you find attractive, being a hot white guy would probably give the most opportunity, but being a hot Asian is far better than being an average white guy. I think however, finding someone who you love and share a life with doesn’t require tons of choices of hot guys, and race probably doesn’t play as big as a factor as your own personality, feelings of self worth, and social skills.
I thought your comment well thought and correct. I guess that most Asians don’t conform to the “hairy beast ” type stereotyperson of the “ideal man” of many whites. But some asian gays are more macho than many white gay maless. It really is just a matter of finding some one u can love. There is someone for everyone! And in an increasingly globalised world, it’s becoming easier to find them.
The solution is simple. Asian men should stop internalizing their own self-hatred and go after their own kind. Stop whining about how white guys don’t want you and start dating your own group. So many asians complain about racism and yet many of them are not willing to date their own group.
Blacks and Indians face the same problem of race exclusion.
I guess all of them are whiners in your warped scheme of the World.
Asian man have the right to address race exclusion they face. What if that White guy is interviewing other races for a job ? Do you think he will be fair ?
Are you kidding me? It’s a quite interesting experiment but just how many msgs you’ve got? XD No matter what’s your skin colour but looks, height, personality, status, manners etc.
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Hey, ppl. Seriously this topic has been in the market for decades.
One thing that I realized over 10 years in the gay society, is that, you just need one Mr. right. And in order to meet that one, you need to go through at least 200-300 gay men.
Maximize your chance, by trying to find one in your race.
(Life is too short and there is no way, even if you were Brad Pitt, you would not be able to go through every single gay men in the entire world.)
I once hated myself while I was traveling in Australia -1year- and Canada -3 months.
Even the people I randomly ran into at a bar where most of the customers were White dues were so rude and calling me Ching-Chang-Chong (It was the very first word I learned when I first came to Canada for backpacking). For them I was either a piece of cheap rice roll that they can pick up whenever they want(partially true, I’ve seen so many Asian boys basically just following the White guys after chatting for about 5 minutes), and a human being they can simply ignore and treat like some sort of a retarded one. I was just being polite and did my best when the chance came. Oh. don’t get me wrong. I wasn’t just standing in the corner like some Asians. Like I did in my country, I also came up to people and initiated the chat as well.(For someone who has been in the service industry for a long time, you can sense that disgusted looks on those people’s faces and indeed it was not easy to deal with)
I’ve seen and heard so many stories of pathetic Asians living in Canada, America, and Australia that they are only into White ones but never be able to find a decent one and always with pretty much awful ones. (Oh trust me, I’ve seen some great couple -Asian&White- as well).
I now completely erased, removed, and deleted White race from off the table. And my gay life is much more happier, and been dating and seeing so many great Asian guys with amazing hearts (Amazing tools.. too).
I also gave up the chance to further live in Australia and now back in my home country. But I get to travel in Asia with the help of LCCs and it is just AMAZING. You just never have to be sorry for being Asian. As long as you keep your body in shape, and yourself as a gentleman. You can basically always meet up a decent man for a chat, date, and of course sex as well.
One of the best part is that, I regained my self-confidence and active personality back and it is much better than making extra cash and living in White-dominated countries.
I was at the festivals in Taiwan and Thailand couple of weeks ago, it was just great as I met and had sex with so many amazing guys and never had the unpleasant experiences like I had in Australia and Canada. You just be yourself and come up to a guy and buy him a drink and do your magic to show your attractive side. If he says no, you just move onto the next person. You don’t get that disgusted looks on those White guys faces. You do not have to look down and doubt yourself. You do not have to question yourself whether you are nobody and invisible in this country and the only chance to meet a guy is to spread your legs and be a boy toy(when you are in the area that the only people you can find are White ones).
Certain things will never change and no matter how much people scream and emphasize, basically, the racial issue is always gonna be there. You, and including anyone, cannot change that. As long as they do not show their preferences in a very disgusting way, you just have to respect the fact that they are just not into you.
– I KNOW, this doe not apply to all Asians, but I saw many Asians who have experienced and devastated and are living miserably in the White-dominated countries.
SO FOR ASIANS WHO ARE LIVING IN THOSE COUNTRIES AND EXTREMELY LONELY FOR MANY YEARS, IT IS NOT TOO LATE. PACK YOUR STUFFS AND LEAVE. I MEAN, FOR THOSE WHO CAN. I AM SO GLAD THAT I WAS NOT SO STUBBORN AND OBSESSED WITH MONEY AND HAD THE COURAGE TO START ALL OVER.
I mean my life back in here is just amazing. Career, Friendship, Money, Travel, Man, Romance, and sex, everything is in the right place and all well-balanced.
Like I said before, THERE ARE TONS OF GUYS OUT THERE, do not miss your chance.
In a way, I do appreciate the hatefulness I gained from White, Middle Easter, Latinos. It taught me to more understanding, smart and wise when it comes to finding a man.
I am currently working on opening a guest house where I can host 100 guests and it is super conveniently located near the hot gay spot. It will be the amazing place anyone vising from Asian countries or want to have an awesome time with other Asian travelers.
Anyway, good luck guys and do not hate yourself or question the value of your existence just because of some brainless garbage and hope you fully enjoy your gay bachelor life as much as you can and deserve.
One is attracted to what one finds attrative. Many white women will only date tall guys. That’s bad for short white guys….but would you wanna date a person who rejects you for being short? I am a “rice queen” , I like the east Asian look and. ..no…I don’t think all Asians are submissive gentle wanna be wives of any White. Although many white girls will omay date tall men, hardly any will date ANY tall man irrespective of ugliness, age, personality . If an Asian guy I find attrative likes me back, that’s cool not exploitive. As for gays being rude to those who approach them but whom they do not find attrative, I am always polite to those who like me but whom I don’t find attrative . But if someone does not “get the message” that they are not desired, one is entitled to get more assertive and clear as to one’s lack of interest.
Dinosaurs were killed by Earthquake. People in Africa and Middle East die everyday because of crime, famine, pestilence. Can I kill you because of that ?
How does preference for tall over short justify preference for White over others ?
Women are biologically pre-programmed to fitter, healthier man : the tall guy.
How do you justify rejection on racial lines is primarily White to others, and not in reverse direction ?
It’s really a bad pity what I am reading from you. I am volunteering in an antidiscrimination association. We fight for example against homophobia and racism.
I would like to get into touch with you. Anti-Asian-Racism has to be a topic in Germany, too.
Thank you for your very valuable contribution. :-)!
Yours Alexander
I live in Germany. For Non white men finding a Caucasian date of similar age group is nearly impossible. Which is often defending by Germans justifying German – Südlander dating as Interracial !!
Ludicrous. Since when German dating Turk, Lebanese, Greek, Spaniard is Interracial ?
Dear Passing By, (comment of May 12, 2016
It’s really a bad pity what I am reading from you. I am volunteering in an antidiscrimination association. We fight for example against homophobia and racism.
I would like to get into touch with you. Anti-Asian-Racism has to be a topic in Germany, too.
Thank you for your very valuable contribution. :-)!
Yours Alexander
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I always loved your white office, but I'm also a HUGE fan of black & white!!! (especially a damask-ish pattern– buy not too "old" looking, you know?)
I dont wanna be rude but so far i’ve concern most of White did not into with Eastern Asian Types (Chinese, Korean, Japs) slanted eyes, mostly short, small dick and yellow/pale skinned.
And its very common to seeing White goes w/ South East Asian (Thai,Pinoy,Malay etc) Or even South Asian (Indian, Mid east, Paki etc).
Malay,Thai guys are some of the most beautiful men .Who said all Asians are after Whites or find them attractive. Most Asian men find Asians much more attractive .South East Asian , Persian-Afghan-Turk , Black men are far more hotter. I think some whites over rate themselves and have a false imagination all lust after them. .
There are people that “overate” themselves but I don’t think it’s connected to race. Certainly money has something to do with arrogant sex tourists from the West or Arab countries .
I think this whole argument is ridiculous. Most people are not racially exclusive although they may have a preference. Some are exclusive in the same way as many straight western women will only date tall guys. Too bad for short guys, but get over it!
My GOSH ! I am from Korea but hell NO i dont like white guys ! I I am only into Asian and I am proud and happy to be Asian ! Alot of white expat here in Korea have tried to get under my pants but I always politely say NO. And btw I know that asian picture that you used.
Good for you, to love who you are and to love other Asians and not hate your own people
Good luck to you but you should not be so dismissive of non Asians who happen to fancy you. Too bad for western guys who fancy yoy but some western girls will only date tall men. Too bad for short guys but nobody should be dismiss them as “wanting to get into the pants” of girls.
Funny how a white guy says he’s mostly attracted to other white men and is called a racist, but an Asian says “hell NO I don’t like white guys” and is applauded. Somehow one is horrible and the other is fine. That said, you really can’t force who you are physically attracted to, you just can’t. And I hope the author isn’t saying it’s wrong that more seem to be attracted to whites. Could he force himself to be attracted to women if someone said he’s wrong to go with his natural attractions??
I’m a fit/muscular white guy who fell in love with an Asian Guy 4 years older than myself. We had an 8 year relationship and still remain close. After a few years dating men of all races I happened to again fall in love with an Asian man. It’s been 4 years now and very happy. It’s not that I don’t think this report is true because it is…I just want to point out there can be exceptions.
I say props to the author publishing his take on our sub-culture. I know this expression exists. I am a gay Asian living in UT. My dating pool is primarily white, however, I’m not opposed to the idea of Asian, or Latino. Occasionally I will come across the “sorry not into Asians” thing but why would you let it bring you down. I wouldn’t want to date, fuck, or associate with someone like that anyway.
Additionally, dates that start with anime usually go sour. In my opinion date, fuck, hang-out, hook-up with “me” – not my presumed culture.
Anyway, thanks for writing this. It’s a reminder that this sort of perspective exist and not to prescribe to it. Try identifying with being Asian but not let your identity only be Asian . Sincerely, it may help.
Do an experiment yourself. I had 4 profiles on a gay site. Same pictures with abs etc. but just profiled one as white, the other as asian, persian. and the other as hispanic. The white guy got tonnes of emails etc, with pictures etc by the initiator. All seeking fuck, suck etc, anonomous, no strings attached sex etc. The asian, not so much….as soon as they know you’re asian (in Vancouver), it’s a dead deal. Guys even block you after they know so they limit seeing your profile and you, theirs. Hispanics are better than asians but not so much than white people. Persians (lighter skin colors) seem to be in between. The lighter the skin, the more “caucasian” you are and the more responses. I was going to write a book but it seems like there’s a few asians who have gotten on the experiment and documenting it. It is how they say… I’m not racist…and use the “I’m just not attracted to Asians”……(blah blah blah) After taking a university course on women’s literature and matriarchy, one can see the paternalism and thus, racism, suppression of non-white, anglosaxon culture. Think Ken & Barbie…the ultimate lifestyle since the ages. .. . Gays make gays who are self-loathing. Gay culture makes gay exclusions.
Vancouver sounds aweful
It’s not so bad if you like a cheap imitation of LA
Vancouver known as Hongkouver (literally) because the Asian migrants (mostly chinese decents) are heaps and it makes u guys aint special anymore. The funny thing Asian with Olive dark skinned and big eyes (native Thai/Pinoy/Malay etc) has had still caught their (white) attentions.
Err? What you on abt?
So for now, I’m going to ignore the fact that this Asian dude seems to think white dudes are the top of his own dating criteria… Dating can be rough. No matter who you are or what you look like it’s tough. It brings rejection, lots of repetitiveness, dating the duds, finding what you want, knowing what you want, it’s like having a job sometimes. But let’s not lose sight of what we all want. Love. So let’s look at the stats and assume they have any scientific validity. The hot Asian guy still got a lot of responses. So if he wants to find love or just get laid, statistically, it’s highly probable he will find both and walk away satisfied. So who cares if the white dude had more when both white and Asian dude had enough responses to get what they want, assuming they want anything at all. Lets discuss the quality of men these people attracted. The author of the post claims that hot Asian dudes date ugly white guys. I don’t know where this guy lives but from where I live, hot guys date hot guys, regardless of race. In my network most attractive Asian guys in relationships are in mixed race relationships with attractive guys. The two Asian guys over fifty that I know are both jacked and are in relationships with younger white attractive boys. And I can think of three more attractive Asian guys who have hot white boyfriends. I’m a buff, mixed race latin Asian and I’ve got a jacked white attractive boyfriend. He certainly gets more attention than me, but I get more than I can handle. I only know one hot Asian dude who is with an ok looking white dude, but they have specific fetished and the Asian dude is the dominant one in the relationship. They are both extremely happy together. So even if the white guy is less attractive, who cares if everyone is happy and in love. If you want a hot boyfriend go be hot. Hit the gym hard, stop drinking, and be a beast. Seriously.
I love how all of the comments are soooooo problematic… And yet you fools are oblivious to it..funny
I love being white and having a big dick too ! My life has been one big easy ride. I have sex with boys 30 years younger than me all time. My younger super smart asian husband makes big bucks and flies me all over the planet in lay flat beds and suites in luxury hotels. I have 4 different Benz’s to drive anywhere I want and multiple luxury homes and condos to live in. Yeah, being white is fucking great ! Plus I got the greatest white privilege of all, the Delta 32 mutation, even only 1% of whites get that, so it’s quite exclusive.
Your ranking is wrong. Hot Indians are not at the end, we’re on par with latinos. If you’re hot, work out, tons of white meat to feast on. And its true, white guys are super hot, so why not?!
Most of white guy who like asian because they want to settle down and have kids
This is really true, truth to the core, the Eternal truth!! I myself had did this social experiment atleast in Europe. First I posted my pic as a brown South East Asian ( India, Srilanka) . With this I used to hardly get two messages a day. Even when I voluntarily sent messages the reply rate was 15:1 . Then after a week I posted myself as a European guy with same statics ( offcourse different race) , but a different pic. The only change in the pic was colour of the skin. I mean I got a pic of my friend ( he was aware of this experiment & agreed for his pic), as a toned European guy. Note the built and muscle structure was same as the asian pic and i tried to keep the profile descriptioon too unedited.
And then the outcome took place, I used to get around 1860-180 messages a day. My iphone used to get drained within 1-2 hours and i had to constantly pluggin it in.
Most handsome guys used to ask out for a date, sex and relationships too. Voluntarily all sorts of pic from feet to hair styles used to flood my inbox.
Morever people used to openly confess that they use app only for sexdate but after seeing the pic on my profile, they want to go ahead and propose for relationship. I swear getting into relationship here in europe with gays is big thing !! they mostly prefer open relationship. But this time ROFl they wanted a closed relationship.
I swear the pic itself of my german friend was not so attractive with few red pimple blots on the face and thick lips, but the response was awesome !!
Yes guys colour of the skin matters!!!!
Do’t know what to call it apartheid, rascicm, choice or ” Not my type/my type” lingo.
But I and other whites had Latin fever in Miami. How come my experience is so different. Anyway,Grindr sucks as a way to meet people
Probably the dumbest gay dating article I ever read. Regardless of race/gender, self-hating like this author is HUGE turn-off for me. This article is just a rant spoonful of streotypes giving birth to another streotype.
You cant even troll This article is the truth I myself have experienced this as well Most are looking for that White supermodel or fat daddy old guy even if hes ugly as sin they want him cause hes white. Y ou could be the black/asian/arabic johnny depp jhon cena brad pitt and they will turn you down with the quickness like a snake bite. but if you are white they will chase you like the cops after a drug dealer.
Neither your experience nor what you heard of cannot generalize white men and say this article is the ‘truth.’ It seems like u got turned down because of your prejudiced mindset rather than your appearance.
You sound rather bitter about nothing. I am sure not all potato queens will fuck any white. And vice versa for rice queens. They have their preferences in the same way many western women will only date tall guys ( but not ANY tall guy). Unfortunate if one is a short white hetro man, but get over it!
I know a lot of what you are saying is true. I have always been attracted to Asian guys but was never able to meet that many here in Miami. I met the love of my life on a sight called Silver Daddies. I never considered myself a daddy but there is a 28 year difference in our ages. Erick is Filipino and after a month I went there to meet him. He is attracted to older guys, which is somewhat common for Asian guys. We had a wonderful 2 weeks and I wanted to have him come back to live with me in the U.S. That was not to be and I said fuck this bigoted country and I went there. We moved to Bangkok which I have always loved, couldn’t say the same for Manila. I did see a lot of older younger in Bangkok and a lot of it was old guys wanting a cute young guy and young guys wanting a lifestyle. There is no denying that a lot of older younger relationships are based on that. But there are also older younger relationships like mine where you have two people totally in love with each other. We are now married and been in the U.S. for almost two years. I write this because I got the feeling that you do not approve of younger Asian guys with older white guys. We are all different and finding true love is really the most important thing for true happiness. I hope you find your true love. I can’t imagine from your pic why anyone would not want to get to know you.
glad you found the love of your life! regarding “asian guys being attracted to older (white) guys”, i beg to disagree. They are of the minority of the asian gay community. most asians sticks with asians. Good looking, fit asians, sticks with same level good looking, fit asians… =)
glad you found the love of your life! regarding “asian guys being attracted to older (white) guys”, i beg to disagree. They are of the minority of the asian gay community. most asians sticks with asians. Good looking, fit asians, sticks with same level good looking, fit asians… =)
Many white hetrovgirls will only date tall guys. Too bad if your a short hetro male. Get over it, pathetic sad for!
Dumb because you don’t experience it. I can relate to it 100%. I live it daily. There is no taking a day off. The racism is always there something you always have to deal with. There is no self hating. Hate to break it to you the world you live in is very much different from other people. Until you begin to open or understand what’s it is like being in someone else’s shoes, stay off the keyboard and keep it moving.
I have experienced it, and judging based on appearance happens even in the same race of course. Sorry to hear that it happens to you daily. However, I would stay away from this meaningless generalization like this stereotypical article. And if you think there’s no self-hating, read the article again.
Yeah, right, I am a racist exploiting my brown hair good looks and money to date red haired guys. Of course all red heads are hot in bed with firey red head personalities to match.
Yes you are right . It must be awful. I found myself a little hurt just hearing a few comments Say whites are pasty and unattractive and that was hearing something negative no where near as often as Asians and others hear.
I’m Black and I have no complaints or worries. There are lots of white guys looking for a well equipped guy, if you know what I mean. I honestly find Asian men super attractive. Unfortunately, all the ones I meet are desperately seeking a white guy. Whether white guys like me or not means very little. Most Black guys I know want other Black dudes, or Ethnic guys. Not much into white guys.
I’m Asian and love black guys. Unfortunately, I’m vers and hate being exclusively a bottom. Almost all the black guys I have met are power tops who basically want to/have just power drilled me relentlessly. I would love to meet a black guy who is vers and has a little bit more tact than just flashing their huge dick pic followed with “wanna get fucked?”
where do you live ?
That’s because black men are used to being forced into being the dominant partner even when they don’t want to be. I’m a bottom but I’ve been asked numerous times by whites and latinos to top for which I oblige. I’m not desperate though and it usually doesn’t work out in the end because that’s not the position that I am most comfortable with. I think White/latino men are notorious for fetishizing black men.
I’d love to meet and asian top. I had a few and Whew! Blew my mind. They are electrifying.
I’d love being with asian tops. They are electrifying. !!!!!
I am sure you are aware that guys that are majorly into black guys are stereotyping just as much as people that are not into certain ethnic minorities.
It is just not OK to exclude or fetishise ethnic origin. You are someone who deserves to be appreciated as an individual, not a sexualised stereotype.
I’m Chinese living in the Middle west. I don’t consider myself being hot or that handsome but I still I got quite a few messages everyday on Grindr and Jackd with my face pic. Some of the messages are from guys I think very attractive. And to be honest I was quite surprise how popular I am there. The majority at least 90% of my Chinese friends is only into Asians after they having sex with several non-asians. Chinese is for sure different from Asian-Americans and I guess that’s why I simply couldn’t understand why Asian-Americans always whining about how superior to be white gays…
I may be a bit late to the party here, but do you mind if I ask what role you take on in the bedroom? I find that Asian bottoms get a lot more messages because other races just loooove to dominate over a submissive Asian. If you are am Asian top or vers, you are far less likely to get any response because nobody likes to get pounded by someone who is perceived in society to be a weak, small-dicked creature.
At the moment I live in Australia so all I have are white guys. Middle eastern guys and Indian guys tend to be disgusting players (especially wogs). Asian guys are so self hating it sickens me. Black guys are non existent. Latino guys seem really arrogant like the middle eastern guys. So white guys left. That’s all I got here. Used to live in Korea but getting one of those guys home with you is like extracting fucking teeth. Really like middle eastern but hate their attitudes and arrogance. The hot bookish introverts are always white. Or super straight Asians. I’ve decided to stop hating on whites and just go with it thoug.
I dunno. I’m on Jack’d in Melbourne & I have Insight & all the Asian guys on there (prefer around my age 30-40) seem only to be interested in other Asians, as are all the white guys. No one ever messages me except to say they’re into Asians only sorry. Most of them don’t reply at all which I find to be rude, just tell me you’re not interested instead of keeping people waiting. That’s so up yourself. And I’m not your stereotypical rice queen either, not bragging or anything, but I’m slim, tall, blonde, good looking and well hung. The point being is that as a white guy that doesn’t seem to get me anywhere on Jack’d. I have a way better success rate on Grindr. Actually I haven’t yet come to think of it (after 3 weeks) picked up anyone on Jack’d although I’ve chatted with a few only to find out they’re only into bears or older. I’m just about to delete Jack’d. Not having any luck there. Bars are much better place to meet Asian guys. At least people talk to each other. (Oops bitter, cynical feelings welling up. I’ll stop now. LOL)
Even the geeky average looking guys who tend to be my “type” don’t reply, so seriously WTF is going on here? OK I’d really better stop now or I’ll be accused of trolling.
You get what you put out, if you believe you are inferior you will be treated like that. Asian men, stop portraying the stereotype of a passive, submissive self-hating Asian man. I love being Asian and gay, I have felt the bitterness of racism, but I have never let it define me. I have fucked with just about every race, and I can honestly say, I have enjoyed them all. There is something about every race that I can find sexy or attractive (what can I say? I love dick lol!) If you carry yourself with confidence pride, you w find dick and ass lining up outside your door! Those hook-up sites are full of people looking for a quick orgasm, so I really don’t believe they represent the true moral character of any gay community, maybe just a shallow representation of their animal sexual appetite. If I ever see a no asians, I block and move on. I don’t even waste my time. Their loss. period. I know I can top an ass real good, and man I can suck a dick tho lol! But you have to truly believe it’s their loss, and move on. Nothing to me is more attractive than a man with confidence, comfortable in his own skin, I don’t care what your race is. I am lucky to be living in Los Angeles where there is just about every race on Earth here living together. Being an older, experienced 30ish Asian man, the one thing I wish every younger Asian man had, is a sense of self worth and pride in who you are. Own it. I never say I have a “type” because I feel it implies I like a man for what he is, not who he is. (although truth be told I seem to gravitate towards Mexican men) But I welcome ALL races into my bed (slut) lol!
Hello Ruben. May I know your fb account?
May I know your FB account? I’m interested to know you more.
Lol Jack’d is not that bad buddy.. Maybe we can talk..:)
Too bad – I gave up – already deleted Jack’d LOL
Sexy man, make me want to visit Melbourne, real bad ; )
PS You might say I’m a hot, bookish, shy introverted type. That’s me. Maybe that’s what’s wrong. I’m just not gym fit and dominant enough. Haha.
Anyway I give up on Jack’d. Back to my Asian guy porn. Haha.
Shame that you are not anywhere close but 10,500 miles away from me..
Tarek is a Middle Eastern Name
I understand what you are saying. Try being my age. There’s so much hatred and animosity towards middle aged men and men over 50. I am 47 and the way people ignore us is amazing. What we went through as gay men is worse than what todays young gay men went through. There were no support groups for young gay men back in the 60’s, 70’s and even the 80’s. The AIDS epidemic was another blow to gay men. The stigma of AIDS was attached to being gay that prejudice was so rampant people were killed for it. As for races. The problem is how people are perceived. I try to get along with all races. I am white. I also speak over 20 languages and am very familiar with multi cultural groups as I have studied Sociology and Anthropology. I even have dated men of different racial groups. I do find that caucasian american males to be less respectful of diversity in the gay subculture. I am very certain racism is prevalent among all racial groups. Hispanics hating Blacks who hate Asians who hate Whites who hate American Indians who hate Middle Easterners. The real trouble is not learning and being friends with men of various ethnic identities. Not being around people can cause self isolation and that leads to misunderstandings about cultural backgrounds. The westernized model of living tends to be more on the American world viewpoint. Commercialization of practically everything and that everything evolves around materialism. Not every cultural group likes that and is quite opposed to that. Also Asiatic peoples tend to be group oriented rather than individualistic American oriented. In fact most cultural groups tend to gravitate towards collectivism and it does offend most American caucasian males. The sense of independence is very grounded. That’s probably what turns them off as well about non white males.
If there was a way to get more dialogue instead of arguments things would be accomplished better. If all ethic and racial groups could speak to another without disrespect and listen to each others ideas we can have group harmony. Using epithets and harsh comments doesn’t improve what is attempted to accomplish. Everyone is different and unique and has their own ideas of how they want the type of man to be. It is rational not to like someone. It is irrational to expect others to feel they have to like someone. But just the basic requirement is respect. That is it. You don’t have to accept anyone but just leave it at that. Things will be fine.
This is surely satire.