Many gay Asians have a problematic addiction to potatoes, aka white guys. I was there myself. For years, I always pictured the “ideal guy” for me to be a dashingly handsome white guy with the perfect features – blue eyes, sandy hair, and a bit taller than me.
Lucky for me, I woke up in time to smell the coffee. Many of my fellow gay Asians aren’t so fortunate. They stick to their proverbial guns and hang to the pipe dream of landing a white male model, even when they’re years past their dating prime.
If you’re a potato queen, I have news for you. You need to get over your addiction to white guys ASAP. Here’s why:
1. You need white guys more than they need you
For every white guy who’s open to dating an Asian, there are no fewer than 3 Asians fighting for his attention.
White guys are the least willing of all the races to date outside their own racial group, and when they do, there’s plenty of competition for them.
Don’t believe me? The folks over at OkCupid, one of the biggest free dating sites, collect statistics on this stuff. The picture isn’t rosy…
- White guys are almost 4 times as likely as Asians to say they strongly prefer to date someone of their own race (43% vs 12%)
- White guys only reply to Asians 35% of the time when they make contact, whereas Asians respond 55% of the time to white guys
See the disparity? There’s a much bigger potential pool of Asians seeking white guys, which means it’s a white guy’s market. Actually, going strictly by reply rates (read the chart vertically downwards), white men are the biggest snobs on OkCupid, with the lowest reply rates of anyone.
And even if you get lucky…
2. You’ll eventually get dumped for a younger, cuter Asian
White people invented the concept of leasing a car and trading it in when it’s old, and they’ve carried that concept over to their dating lives too.
97% of the time when you see an East-West (Asian-White) couple, it’s an older white guy with a substantially younger Asian. Because there are many more Asians seeking white guys than vice versa, white guys have plenty of choice, while potato-seeking Asians have to settle for whatever they can get. Usually, it’s an older, often chubbier white guy who, for all his shortcomings, is, well, white.
Years down the road when you’re getting a bit long in the tooth, you can expect to be traded in for a younger, hotter Asian model, and there will be plenty of those to choose from.
3. Rice queens don’t care about you as an individual
Although your average white guy is a poor dating choice for all the reasons above, you should be extra suspicious of rice queens.
A rice queen is a special variety of white guy that primarily (or exclusively) dates Asians. You may think that you’ve hit pay dirt when you land a rice queen, but you should beware – they only like you because you’re Asian.
White guys become rice queens because they like smooth skin, smaller bodies and what they perceive as more submissive personalities of Asian guys. When a rice queen sees you, he notices only those features he’s attracted to, not necessarily your other qualities.
At some point down the road, your rice queen will find an even better Asian who embodies even more of the qualities he likes, and you might end up sitting on the curb on garbage day.
4. Potatoes age faster
White guys age faster than us Asians, at least on the surface. Caucasian skin tends to be thinner and looser, and more susceptible to wrinkling at an earlier age. White men also gain a considerable amount of weight sometime after their early 20s, and that weight gain continues steadily until middle age, at which time it’s pretty rare to find a white guy who doesn’t have a visible beer gut.
What this means is that your 25-year-old Abercrombie model will see his looks depreciate considerably by age 35, and will almost certainly wind up in the visual bargain bin by age 45. How often do you hear people saying to white guys “OMG you’re 38?? You look 10 years younger!” And yet it happens all the time to Asians.
5. You will end up old and lonely
For all the reasons above, you’re unlikely to land the white guy of your dreams. And even if you luck out, it may be short lived.
A disproportionate number of my old, lonely gay friends are Asians and the one thing they share in common is a strong preference to date exclusively white guys. Year after year as they age they become even less attractive to the white guys who, as we’ve seen, have plenty of younger, cuter Asians to choose from.
If gay Asians want to do themselves a favor, they might consider being more open-minded to dating any other race besides white men, perhaps even giving other Asians a chance. It’s probably not a good idea to base a relationship on superficial physical criteria like skin, hair or eye color, which narrows down your choice of partners. Yes, physical attraction is difficult to consciously change but everyone’s looks fade over time and physical attraction is only a small part of successful long term relationships. At least, that’s been my experience.
Interesting post that I happened to stumble upon. As a bi-racial American guy (i.e. Creole and Irish) who has lived in Korea for a number of years, I have seen an interesting dichotomy here regarding preferences. Specifically, some Korean guys REALLY seek out white guys primarily because they fetishize foreigners, which is still considered “exotic” given this is a firmly homogeneous culture, and/or idealize the Caucasian aesthetic. Just look at the plastic surgery craze here: the “ideal” features are big eyes, what they call a “high-nose,” and very white skin. On the other side, there are some Korean guys who absolutely, unequivocally DON’T want anything to do with a foreigner – they strictly prefer Korean guys. The reasons are varied, such as unwillingness to overcome inherit cultural differences, the language barrier, assumptions about foreigners’ STD status (i.e. we all have HIV), etc. I happily gave up a long time ago trying to date a Korean guy. Because I am mixed and not 100% white, I have always felt I never quite made the cut (i.e. largely from comments about me being half black, even though I am as white as can be thanks to my Irish roots). In the grand scheme, I happy I gave up on wading the waters of this foolery.
I also stumbled across this page but I’m glad I did. As a potato myself it was interesting to read your views and the statistics you provided. I agree that I’m attracted to smooth skin and smaller bodies but don’t subscribe to the ‘more submissive’ theory. Asian guys are generally handsome and friendly and sexy and that’s what I like about them. I would be happy if I could find a nice Asian guy to share my love and life with.
As long as that Asian guy was younger shorter and slim. You’d be very happy, right?
Yes. I like those characteristics, along with affection and honesty. Ethnicity isn’t important I suppose, but I just happen to love Asian guys. I’m an Australian and haven’t been lucky enough to meet the man of my dreams as yet.
I wish you well and lots of luck. Why is it you Aussies look favourably upon Asians but here in the USA Asian men are the least desirable? I often wonder.
I have been looking for a man of my dreams too for a long time now. lol… Had a hookup with a potato guy once when I was in Chicago, but sadly he’s not fond into relationship though… I have tried different dating apps but unlucky to find one.
You have a point. We fetishize EVERYTHING as gay men. Body shape and size, “race”, body parts and size, etc. All I ask is don’t give up on us potatoes but don’t fetishize us either. If an Asian man is exclusive to white men, it’s for as many of the wrong reasons as white men exclusive to Asian men. For example, ideally, I would love to meet a beefy or skinny muscular, professional, androgenous or masculine, versatile Asian American close to my age who is totally into me and hugs, kisses, and spoons with me in varying roles everyday. Heck, you can take out the body shape and race, and I’d still be content. I just love everything about east Asian features so much that East Asian babies make my heart melt and make me want a husband even more so we can adopt. But there are handsome men from around the globe, and what matters is if you’re looking for life or the moment and the dreams hopes thoughts and integrity on the inside of whomever you’re observing.
So, in summary, yes, give up on potatoes if they are the only thing you’ve had your eye on, but if you’re just looking for a good and loving man, don’t give up on anyone based on race or ethnicity, including the box the rest of the world has asked you to check.
Younger. Shorter.Slimmer. Two of the three things I can’t change about me, though I’ll always be Asian, and attracted to white men. When I see an interracial couple, I experience a range of emotions: a twinge of jealousy, a burst of happiness for them and a sense of sadness for myself. And a realization that will never happen to me. But I hope everyone here who’s seeking their special someone will find them. You sound like a great guy. Good luck to you.
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
My mobile phone is 66 89 8267590
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
My mobile phone is 66 89 8267590
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Interesting read. As a gay Asian male, I do find it difficult to date. I think race should not be important, but the person as a whole. I learned from my relationships that what really matters is trust and understanding your partner. A person ‘s ethnicity is just the surface. Anyone can connect no matter but I do understand not only the emotional but physical attraction as well. Thank you Lee for your thoughts.
I agree entirely. My attraction is to smooth tanned skin, slim bodies and handsome faces but of course these attributes are not limited to Asians. Personality and affection are also important to me and I have some great memories of previous experiences with Asian guys who, in my mind, were ‘perfect’. Everyone’s likes and preferences are different and I can only speak for myself when it comes to the guys I would love to meet and enjoy a relationship with. Are you single Jeffrey? (tehe!)
Well said Lee. The quality of that individual has a lot more to do with a relationship. Yes Lee, I am single.
Jeffrey
Lee,
That is true about a person’s preference. If there is a connection of course go for it. Myself personally, I tend to find what sparks an interest, personality, and also laughter is a big part. Definitely email me so we could chat more. Jeffconnelly74@gmail.com
Cheers,
Jeffrey
Hahaha… i think I should go a date with you Lee.
Yes please! lol
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
My mobile phone is 66 89 8267590
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Hi
I living in Pattaya , Thailand
I’liked to some guy and gay to good friend’
I’m small body and white skin.
My mobile phone is 66 89 8267590
Yours Sincerely
Charnon
Seems to be written by someone who is frustrated.
This post totally bummed me out. Makes me think that as a white guy, Im going to quickly turn into some ugly monster by 26…
I just think you just need to take care of yourself. I dont know, but it seems most of people not paying attention on what they eat and what a healty lifestyle means.. 🙂
Real love dont care if someone is asian, white, black or what as long as it makes you happy and contented it doesnt really matter even if he is young or old and of course you do love not just because of what he can give you in terms of material things but what he can filled in your life… i would be glad to meet someone who believes the same …
Real love dont care if someone is asian, white, black or what as long as it makes you happy and contented it doesnt really matter even if he is young or old and of course you do love just because of what he can give you in terms of material things but what he can filled in your life… i would be glad to meet someone who believes the same …
I’m Asian gay (Filipino) who finds white guys are so attractive and I really like to have a relationship with white guy. I’m not only looking for physical appearance but also for “inside quality” coz it will work last longer.. But when I read this it made me feel a bit disappointed but I really have to be patient and keep going 🙂
PS I never had any relationship with white guy before.
I just love sharing since we have a different cultures, I would be open and flexible :p I just don’t know where I can meet decent white guys coz I used several apps and sites before but they were just pervs asf 🙁
Dont only white guys. We will know what you’re doing and it is a turnoff. You say you want someone with decent inside qualities, GOOD – race shouldn’t be significant then. Good luck.
Jurrasic is ryt… we should open our interest to every single
I live in Australia and I’m white.
No offence, but I find it disgusting that gay Asian men have a fetish for white men. Or rather, the reasoning behind it. And at the same time completely trash their own race – it is almost like a meme. Do you see any other race in the gay community doing this? No, you don’t.
If I knew that someone wanted to be with me just to climb the social ladder / feel validated / for some stupid fetish of course I would never go out with them!
Seriously though, the amount of Asians I see on Grindr with “I’m only into whites” is just gross. Whats up, are you implying that your race isn’t attractive? Aka yourself?And thats probably why I’ve never ever seen a white / asian gay couple ever.
Hello, Jurassic. I just wanted to check because your comment had an air of racism about it. I agree it’d be very unpleasant to be in a long term relationship only because of your partner’s certain fetish, but the term you have used while expressing this seems to imply that all asians do this. I understand if you feel suspicious towards an asian hitting on you because of this, but would you or would you not consider that he is genuinly interested in you?
Cut it off this non sense shit! Probably your stereotypical theory only work in Western sociaty because of Media NOT in the real Asia Continent!
FYI: Asian in Asia who after white mostly the money boys from the country side which he’s looking for better life.
For example in Thailand – Do you think mid-upper class Gay Thai will go for an old white guy?? Hell no, sticky rice only i supposed.
PS: who said the image of Asian equal feminite and bottom?? Of course the Western Media have been generalized all of Gay Asian Community in Western world.
Do you think we care about it? Hell No! We dont even care about this blog at all coz for me (personally) between Asian in Asia and in US are totally different in many ways!!
Erghh, it is so hard AF to find a rice queen especially I’m still in the closet! I wish I could shout “come hereee I am a potato queen!!!!”. Kinda hating myself sometimes, like am I that ugly? Is that just because I don’t have nice body? I’m a smart guy! And I’d like to be in a relationship, not hook-up. I dislike the way (some of the white guys) only using Asians for sex object.
Undeniably, white men are really sexy and handsome. It is quite hard to forget them and just ignore them when they come into my sight. I’m only 20 years old but after reading your post, maybe I should stop being picky and stay away from the Whites.
I admit that I love whites, but seem like they do not and will not like me. It is okay… hahaha
Thanks for your information.
I’m black
I’ve been with my Asian Indian husband for 30 yrs
Love him dearly
Asians can be some the most racist when it comes to sex and love
Some Asians think that White men are the Gold standard when it comes to beauty
So sad😡
The message is that you need a billable sale attributed to the date for it to go through. The computer will cuts your tie to the person as soon as you neglect to buy in, even if you have made arrangements, it’s considered a “no sale”. Welcome to capitalism.
What a bunch of whiny ass bitches … find what you want and go for it. Life is too short.
If they don’t want you then it wasn’t meant to be.
I’m a attractive asian who’s only attracted to white guys. And yes this article seems to be true because I had too many short term relationships with white guys, they ended up not to contact with me probably because they found some better asians. I always compare myself to other asian and consider myself pretty attractive (most asians look at me in the clubs), but I am wondering why white guys still able to ditch me off.
Three main reasons:
1. Supply and demand ratio (more Asian guys wanting white guys than vice versa) Where you live (or population characteristic) affects this ratio. You may be located in disadvantageous location. For example, you will get more attention from white guys if you are in Iowa than California.
2. You may be attractive physically but most likely not a complete package (in other words, not a husband material). Everyone wants same thing in relationship. Great looking husband with kind heart and $$$ who loves you only. Are you missing any component? If you do, you should work on them.
3. You are continuously picking wrong guys – who are shallow and not into long term relationship. Or vice versa, you are shallow and not into long term relationship but not recognizing it?
1. You’re right, I’m living in the Melbourne CBD and lots of gays everywhere including night clubs and choice of guys I had its pretty wide. So I wont doubt that their choice is even wider than mine.
2. Honestly I think that I do have a boyfriend material and I do get really clingy sometimes. Maybe they think I’m too young and childish as my age its only 20. I wouldn’t doubt myself that I got no boyfriend material because all the while I’m the one who text someone, not them.
3. Maybe. I always pick good looking white guys and literally stay out from asian world and old white guys. I do get paid from old white guys for satisfying their sexual desire, either way there are old white guys who really after me for a relationship but I just can’t accept them.
I probably think that caucasian mindset are different to asian mindset, where asian is more sentimental and the way they see things are more deep and serious, where as caucasians just see things that is present (especially the young ones).
Hey Darius, I also live pretty close to the Melbourne CBD and use Jack’d a fair bit, however I find there are a lot of time wasters on Jack’d. Some guys even chat with me all the way to arranging a date time and place and then suddenly stop chatting and give no more response. Like WTF?? I understand if you’re not interested and don’t reply, but what’s the point of spending an hour messaging & arranging to meet only to then suddenly disappear? This hasn’t happened just once either. I quickly learned about the block function. I would consider myself fairly young and pretty good looking so I can only conclude that these types are literally there out of bitterness only to waste other’s time. Maybe others have a better explanation I don’t know. I’m about ready to delete Jack’d because I waste so much time on Asian guys there who aren’t really interested. Grindr is a much better app for meeting interested guys.
Hi Daniel, I thought you had a boyfriend, or you guys in a open relationship?
Anyway there are lots of time wasters in the app I felt the same way too. I wont reply to someone who I’m not interested with, and I don’t normally ignore people when I changed my mind not to meet up, at least letting them know why.
Btw how old are you?
Hello darius. Im a newly married filipino to an aussie white man. We are both in ur 30s and in love. However living with each other sometimes could get diff. I admire that you are together since 98. I think its awesome.
Hello darius. Im a newly married filipino to an aussie white man. We are both in ur 30s and in love. However living with each other sometimes could get diff. I admire that you are together since 98. I think its awesome.
I’m an asian. From the Philippines. I want to chat. Like friendly chat xx
I just stumbled on this article and find it interesting.
I am Asian, and I used to be only attracted to Caucasians when I was younger. But as I age, I find myself attracted to different races. I certainly have been with very nice looking asians and caucasians; but I am open to more. Chemistry, personality,kindness etc all count for something.
Now I am in my early 50’s and I know what I want in a person as I am single now. I want someone who like me for me and vice versa.
I also prefer someone who is around the same age purely I want one to be able to share his stage in life is very similar to mine. The color of his skin is not an issue. That is just my opinion.
I am a Caucasian Aussie and I have an Asian boyfriend he is sweet, kind, loving, monogamous, caring. I would do anything for and I am not with him because he is Asian. I am with him because I love him very much. Do not judge all Caucasians as shallow pigs. We are not all like that. There are shallow pigs in all races.
This isn’t true for me. People often ask me why I am with my Asian partner (because I love him) as he is not young, hot, slim etc. etc. I find the question INCREDIBLY offensive. We have been together since 1998! That’s why.
PS Everyone ages differently. In this case the perception is as I have aged better (I’m lucky that I am still tall, slim and handsome in my 40s) I should leave him for someone younger and cuter. It’s ourageously shallow.
i agree with you Daviel—shallow people here!
It is only fair to say that majority of them do not like ASEAN but a minority do. That’s it.
I’m ASEAN and I’ll only find the right guy, not based on what race he is, but his love towards me. Otherwise, I think I’ll just stay single till the day I die.
I’m asian chinese specifically and i’m open to dating all races of guys and not just white guys. I live in Vancouver Canada born and raised here so Asian Canadian and here there is a large mix of different people here. I see attraction in every race why limit yourself to just one type of guy? You could potentially miss out a great compatible guy who is not white.
I can only be with Asian men, not attracted to other races at all, not sure if that has something to do with being straight and married and in love with my wife. I suppose there could be any number of reasons, but I am sure than no one will be able to come up with one that I agree with. Is it not possible to enjoy being with some one because you just want to or are most of us till affected from all the religious and cultural subversive brainwashing? Get over it, guide you self, be strong and fair, you will be satisfied
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Alright, so someone please please tell me where all these “flocking” handsome Asian guys are located and why I don’t see a 3 to 1 ratio? I’m an attractive caucasian guy and I find myself interested in Latin and Asian guys but truly I’ve not been able to find a decent top Asian yet. Someone please direct me…
Keep looking. Keep your heart open. Be available. I hate the notion that when you aren’t looking for love-it will find you. But it happens more often than you think. Be patient. Don’t give up. Don’t give in,don’t settle for less.
Great advice! That is how I found my husband. Of note, boyfriend/ husband doesn’t solve your problems or loneliness. You must be happy with yourself first. And, I have also seen many happy single people. After doing what Dwa suggested, you kind of have to leave love to fate. After all, you can’t fight fate.
A testimonial is what was needed to validate and give us single dudes hope-that our time/ our turn will come. And yes, loving yourself will be apparent to others. Which makes you outstanding and desirable. Great qualities to possess! Shine on!
One more thing that I have noticed is that we are so consumed as a society with “Do you have a boyfriend” and fixated with ideal image of “boyfriend” that we often miss the love that is staring you right in the face.
True but sad that some are blind to see someone wonderful is so very close, if only they’d open their eyes and heart.
Travis, do you need help?
Yea I have the same problem. I’m tall, slim, Dutch and hung. I like Asian guys because they are polite and sweet. But on the gay asian app I use I rarely get any replies. I’m not even ageist or very fussy about looks. Maybe the Asian guys have all given up on white guys. Maybe they’re all muscle queens. I dunno. I reckon this thing about Asian guys all wanting any ugly fat old rice queen is a total myth.
Hi i am francis here… I am asian here and looking for caucasian..
Hmmmm…I dont agree with this article, I’m white and though I think short, smooth skinned, submissive asian guys are cute, I find them more attractive because of their personalities. I live in New Zealand so half of my class was asian and most of my friends have been asian. Dating asian guys is very different from white guys and can be refreshing, to say that dating white guys would be a disaster is very shortsighted, anyone from any race can be compatible partners.
I agree with you. New Zealand doesn’t racialize everything though like the U.S. and institutionalized racism in Australia against Asians. I’ve heard the word gook used in Australia before. Who the hell uses that term anymore??? Good to hear your perspective though.
I guess when you decimate the native population you don’t have to worry about race issues.
I also find it’s quite sad that white men seem to often only seriously date submissive Asian men. Those who are genuinely sexually attracted to Asian men will seek masculine and decisive strong Asian men for sex but not dates. In other words, they like to be in control. It sounds very unfair. The opposite is not true. Many Asian gay guys would be willing to get accustomed to strong decisive white men just to be with them.
Ridiculous article. The author says “. It’s probably not a good idea to base a relationship on superficial physical criteria,” and that “everyone’s looks fade over time and physical attraction is only a small part of successful long term relationships,” yet thinks it’s a bad idea to date white men because of how bad they’ll look when they age. Seems rather shallow to me – and bitter. People should date people they enjoy being with; regardless of race. I’d never tell a white person to only date white men because of stereotypes. Ridiculous.
Another point: not all of us “potatoes” are sandy-haired; sometimes we have dark hair (and eyes.) The sweeping generalizations are exhausting on this thread.
Dark haired potatoes are just as delicious
i totally agree, i am white ,and guy that applied to me is Asian ‘i never thought about dating a Asian” cause i didn’t think one might like me..i too feel glad and some people in here need help to know if they can feel .
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Date white women their better than the counter parts ☺️ I can add a strap on 😜
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Damn… while I get where you’re coming from – I met my soulmate 10 years ago. He’s Indonesian and I’m Australian. Still as much in love with him as I was when we first met. He’s a gem and he loves me just as much. We’re the same age and both professionals. I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. I love him :-).
I forgot to say – so many Asian guys are just wonderful men. I hate the fact that gay people “undervalue” so many gorgeous, caring, and family oriented individuals. It seriously sucks!!! There are so so so many gorgeous Asian guys I would date (providing they would date me :-). Hit me up guys!!
How old are you??
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Me date ne for real.. i have so much love to give…
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Cool. I wish I could hit you up.
Sometimes I feel like most gay Asian men are the cheapest among all.
They discriminate against their own race and keep chasing after white men.
I love all races and will date every men, but come on, White men are not really that attractive compared to latino and middle eastern men.
Sometimes I am really embarrassed to be a gay Asian man.
Once again, a generalisation. Are you saying that an overweight, big bellied hairy Latino is more attractive than a slim, hot model type Caucasion twink? Well, maybe you are. Maybe that’s your “type”. My point is why assume that one “type” is more attractive to everyone? That is what you seem to be doing. I’ve met hot, sexy, young twinks who actually like being cuddled by bears and who don’t look at me – slim, Caucasian type – twice at all. It doesn’t always about having to sleep with everyone you meet so you can avoid ever feeling rejected…
Daniel,
It’s easy for you to point fingers here given your “privileged” status. I challenge you to open a fake profile from a lens of a gay Asian and let me know in week what’s your experience is like. My money tells me you won’t be able to handle it in less than a week.
Adam
Asian men are the most racist hands down, they only date other Asians and now they’re bitching on this blog about white people really? Get a fucking life you spoiled brats. My Asian friends all drive BMWs they’re spoiled to death it’s part of their culture the parents spoil them, talk about privilege, you spoiled fucks. Keep on pretending you have a point while only being friends with other Asian, like the typical racist fucks that you are.
F*** u. U should stop making friend with those spoilt kids. It’s not about race. It’s about their personality. You racist scumbag.
Question is so why should Asians keep focusing on dating a White Guy instead of other races or even the same race as they are? I mean they know that dating a White guy will be a short coming relationship, so why don’t Asians just seek each others? Similar race and situation will just help them understand each other even more. Therefore, relationships will last longer. That’s my opinion.
P.S Im loong for an Asian too :V Im sick of short-coming White guy already :V
Great point and I fully agree! But, the problem sometimes is that you fall in love with the “wrong person” whether you are gay or straight in many different races. But, broadening the love interest criteria and looking beyond the skin color may help. Having said this, I am with white guy for the past 16 years. Nice white guys do exist for Asians so don’t fall into pitfalls that all white guys are bad. I also have been enough “bad” Asians too. It goes both ways, I guess. Sometimes, it is good to leave love to fate and live your life fully realizing that you would be still okay wether you are with or without someone special.
names jon
i am offended, i have just started seeing /dating a Asian man,i don’t know were it may go i hope long term..but you comment is as i am white i will “trade him in if he gets to long in the tooth?” i do love this guy and can’t see “trading him in for a new model’ he answered my add, i never thought a great guy Asian or not would like at me…i am proud he likes me…that my take..
Yea I agree – the writer of this blog needs to take a chill pill. I been with my Asian husband since 1998. We love each other heaps. I will never “trade him in” for someone else. I know lots of other mixed couples, gay & straight like we are. The writer is making crass generalizations.
Have you tried Scruff or Growler? I find I like them better than Grinder.
Also, OK Cupid seems to be a better place to meet more serious types.
Good luck and those guys are a bit crazy for not meeting you in person, in my opinion ;o)
Tim
I’m a potato queen and I envy your boyfriend. But I’ve been to Australian. Gay Asians there are indeed more popular than here in the US.
Hi Jon
Are you offended because it struck a nerve? The point the article make is the gay market IS in your favor. That’s just a fact.
As for the guy you’re dating, maybe he like you for you or because you’re white? Also, how’s the relationship now?
Why Asians are desperate for White dicks? Because of interiorized racism perpetuated by the media.
Why Asians don’t date other Asians? Because a lot of Asians are bottom. How can a bottom x bottom relationship even work?
Once again, you’re making wild assumptions here not backed up by anything but anecdotes. Not evidence for sure. Desperately what is needed here. I’m vers. I’ve met lots of Asian tops (not on Jack’d though – don’t meet anyone there usually) and Asian bottoms. I’ve met Asians who think they are bottoms but when encouraged it turns out they actually like being tops. And vice versa too. These role stereotypes of “top” vs. “bottom” are ridiculous. Gay men are privileged to have been granted the opportunity to be both by nature, so why wouldn’t you learn to use both sides of your body for pleasure? Why be informed, of all things, by straight gender roles when it comes to having fun in bed?? Like seriously: WTF???? LOL
That’s not an assumption, media brainwashing is an actual thing, when I turned off the tv and stayed away from these things, I found out my attraction to certain things vanished.
I agree, i am Asian and I like other Asians guy. Unfortunately, many Asians are rude and racist against their own.
Poor assumption as I’m Asian and I’m 100% top. I have also many Asian gay friends who are partnered and dating white men and all of my Asian friends are TOP.
This is bullshits. Lots of Asians are top . Cut your stereotype craps.
Wrong
Haha feel like that this article is all about me lol.
I agree
because Asians like what they dont have. i like white guys too. but its true they only give me heart break 🙂
Cool. You must be a hot Vietnamese.